10 Painfully Obvious Truths Everyone Forgets Too Soon

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You know how you can hear something a hundred times in a hundred different ways before it finally gets through to you?  The ten truths listed below fall firmly into that category – life lessons that many of us likely learned years ago, and have been reminded of ever since, but for whatever reason, haven’t fully grasped.

This, my friends, is my attempt at helping all of us, myself included, “get it” and “remember it” once and for all…

 

1.  THE AVERAGE HUMAN LIFE IS RELATIVELY SHORT

We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know.  It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step.  You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to the present moment and how the world really is.

LIVE your life TODAY!  Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of it either.  Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action.  Death is not the greatest loss in life.  The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive.  Be bold.  Be courageous.  Be scared to death, and then take the next step anyway.

 

2. YOU LIVE THE LIFE YOU CREATE FOR YOURSELF

Your life is yours alone.  Others can try to persuade you, but they can’t decide for you.  They can walk with you, but not in your shoes.  So make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires, and don’t be scared to switch paths or pave a new one when it makes sense.

Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t.  Be productive and patient.  And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in.  This is your life, and it is made up entirely of your choices.  May your actions speak louder than your words.  May your life preach louder than your lips.  May your success be your noise in the end.

And if life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it.  Even if you have no idea where you’re going to land, be brave enough to step up to the edge of the unknown, and listen to your heart.

 

3.  BEING BUSY DOES NOT MEAN BEING PRODUCTIVE

Busyness isn’t a virtue, nor is it something to respect.  Though we all have seasons of crazy schedules, very few of us have a legitimate need to be busy ALL the time.  We simply don’t know how to live within our means, prioritize properly, and say no when we should.

Being busy rarely equates to productivity these days.  Just take a quick look around.  Busy people outnumber productive people by a wide margin.  Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late half of the time.  They’re heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc.  They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep.  Yet, emails are shooting out of their smart phones like machine gun bullets, and their day planners are jammed to the brim with obligations.  Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance.  But it’s all an illusion.  They’re like hamsters running on a wheel.

Though being busy can make us feel more alive than anything else for a moment, the sensation is not sustainable long term.  We will inevitably, whether tomorrow or on our deathbed, come to wish that we spent less time in the buzz of busyness and more time actually living a purposeful life.

 

4.  SOME KIND OF FAILURE  ALWAYS OCCURS BEFORE SUCCESS

Most mistakes are unavoidable.  Learn to forgive yourself.  It’s not a problem to make them.  It’s only a problem if you never learn from them.

If you’re too afraid of failure, you can’t possibly do what needs to be done to be successful.  The solution to this problem is making friends with failure.  You want to know the difference between a master and a beginner?  The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.  Behind every great piece of art is a thousand failed attempts to make it, but these attempts are simply never shown to us.

Bottom line:  Just because it’s not happening now, doesn’t mean it never will.  Sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right.  (Read The Success Principles.)

 

5.  THINKING AND DOING ARE TWO VERY DIFFERENT THINGS

Success never comes to look for you while you wait around thinking about it.

You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.  Knowledge is basically useless without action.  Good things don’t come to those who wait; they come to those who work on meaningful goals.  Ask yourself what’s really important and then have the courage to build your life around your answer.

And remember, if you wait until you feel 100% ready to begin, you’ll likely be waiting the rest of your life.

 

6.  YOU DON’T HAVE TO WAIT FOR AN APOLOGY TO FORGIVE

Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got.  The key is to be thankful for every experience – positive or negative.  It’s taking a step back and saying, “Thank you for the lesson.”  It’s realizing that grudges from the past are a perfect waste of today’s happiness, and that holding one is like letting unwanted company live rent free in your head.

Forgiveness is a promise – one you want to keep.  When you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self.  It has nothing to do with freeing a criminal of his or her crime, and everything to do with freeing yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim.

 

7.  SOME PEOPLE ARE SIMPLY THE WRONG MATCH FOR YOU

You will only ever be as great as the people you surround yourself with, so be brave enough to let go of those who keep bringing you down.  You shouldn’t force connections with people who constantly make you feel less than amazing.

If someone makes you feel uncomfortable and insecure every time you’re with them, for whatever reason, they’re probably not close friend material.  If they make you feel like you can’t be yourself, or if they make you “less than” in any way, don’t pursue a connection with them.  If you feel emotionally drained after hanging out with them or get a small hit of anxiety when you are reminded of them, listen to your intuition.  There are so many “right people” for you, who energize you and inspire you to be your best self.  It makes no sense to force it with people who are the wrong match for you.

 

8.  IT’S NOT OTHER PEOPLE’S JOB TO LOVE YOU; IT’S YOURS

It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself.  You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.  So make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you.  Know your worth, even if they don’t.

Today, let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as incomplete as you think you are.  Yes, let someone love you despite all of this, and let that someone be YOU.  (Read Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It.)

 

9. WHAT YOU OWN IS NOT WHO YOU ARE

Stuff really is just stuff, and it has absolutely no bearing on who you are as a person.  Most of us can make do with much less than we think we need.  That’s a valuable reminder, especially in a hugely consumer-driven culture that focuses more on material things than meaningful connections and experiences.

You have to create your own culture.  Don’t watch too much TV, don’t read every fashion magazine, and don’t read too many newspapers.  Find the strength to fill your time with meaningful experiences.  The space and time you are occupying at this very moment is LIFE, and if you’re worrying about Kim Kardashian or Miley Cyrus (most obvious examples) or some other famous face, then you are disempowered.  You’re giving your life away to marketing and media trickery, which is created by big companies to ultimately motivate you to want to dress a certain way, look a certain way, and be a certain way.  This is tragic, this kind of thinking.  What is real is YOU and your friends and your family, your loves, your highs, your hopes, your plans, your fears, etc.

Too often we’re told that we’re not important, we’re just peripheral to what is.  “Get a degree, get a job, get a car, get a house, and keep on getting.”  And it’s sad, because someday you’ll wake up and realize you’ve been tricked.  And all you’ll want then is to reclaim your mind by getting it out of the hands of manipulative media that wants to turn you into the perfect consumer that buys everything that isn’t needed to impress everyone that isn’t important. It’s a hamster wheel, think about it.

 

10.  EVERYTHING CHANGES, EVERY SECOND

Embrace change and realize it happens for a reason.  It won’t always be obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it.

What you have today may become what you had by tomorrow.  You never know.  Things change, often spontaneously.  People and circumstances come and go.  Life doesn’t stop for anybody.  It moves rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds, and happens like this to people every day.  It’s likely happening to someone nearby right now.

Sometimes the shortest split second in time changes the direction of our lives.  A seemingly innocuous decision rattles our whole world like a meteorite striking Earth.  Entire lives have been swiveled and flipped upside down, for better or worse, on the strength of an unpredictable event.  And these events are always happening to someone else right this second.

However good or bad a situation is now, it will change.  That’s the one thing you can count on.  So when life is good, enjoy it.  Don’t go looking for something better every second.  Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they have while they have it.

 

Your Turn

What else would you add to this list?  What important life lessons do you often forget?  Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.

  • Willyum Ivy

    Life is as Simple as you Let It Be. And, as Complicated as you Make It.

  • Tommi Linda Hoyu Boulter

    Pretty much sums it up. Just one little thought, to turn and face the suffering/pain is how we do wake up. That, perhaps, is the only reason, we are bumbling around in these meat suits one more time. “Truth’s right before your very eyes.” (~Affirming Faith Mind)

  • Russell Mccormick

    Honestly, I’m one of the biggest web wide lurkers out there, I, never, post. But damn, gotta hand it to you, sensational piece..Really resonates.

    • livelearnevolve

      Thank you Russell, really appreciate your comment.

      • Ibtisaan Ali

        WOW!!! I will print and stick it on my fridge. I really enjoyed this. U don’t understand how happy I am right now. Thank u thank uuuuu!!! ☺️☺️

        • felix72

          And every time you stick a turkey leg in your mouth, eat a piece of pie, ice cream you’ll think of # 10

    • livelearnevolve

      Thanks for reading Russell, really appreciate your comment.

      • rollins3490

        Take it easy on the incredibly presumptuous titling. these are things many children learn, and more adults forget. great insights. thanks for the read.

        • Anthony DiPasquale

          presumptuous titling? How in heck is ‘painfully obvious” presumptuous?
          first an insult, then a compliment – nice

          • rollins3490

            …. Try again

        • Laylla

          But Rollins, these things ARE painfully obvious, even to those who don’t wish to acknowledge it.

          • rollins3490

            …. Subjective

          • Laylla

            Perhaps. But this should be common thinking for anyone. Two word sum it up: BE NICE.

          • rollins3490

            If only common thought were aligned with reality more often. Lots of centuries wasted there

    • Christian Valenzuela

      I was gonna say exactly that, considering there are sooo many similar lists these days I didn’t think I’d find one a cut above the rest like this one.

    • Jim Murray

      ofcourse it resonates ,,, these are all bible principles

      • Russell Mccormick

        Not gonna lie Jim, the reason it resonates with me has absolutely nothing to do with the principles of the bible. I’m not religious and I don’t believe in any form of God. It resonates with me because I recently spent 8 months backpacking through the third world and the things I’ve seen, places I’ve been and people I’ve encountered have been far more thought provoking and engaging ( not to mention real ) than anything that can be found in a book.

        • Lee

          Agreed, you don’t have to be religious to be a good person with good morals. After nine years in the Navy and visiting several countries it’s amazing how much we take for granted in the U.S.
          I’m just a simple country boy from Kansas and I love living in rural America, surrounded by nature, adventure and life. Makes it much easier to avoid the television and your smart phone when you have so much open area to explore and history to chase. But even here a majority of people are blinded by technology and society.
          I think it’s a great article and great guidelines to base a successful lifetime off of.

          • Suzanne Mahoney

            Sounds like you’re right on target!!

        • Bella

          This is why I love reading/listening to those who have traveled and experienced. Beautiful piece!

        • Laylla

          You sound like a fascinating person, I would enjoy hearing about your experiences.

      • Darren

        Pre-bible, these truths are universal

        • Vee

          “In the beginning was the Word. …and the Word was God.”

          • Darren

            It was true before any bible, torah, koran or anything else.

          • John Brooke

            …and the Word was a metaphor for something we could only explain as God and it was only ink on paper like any other book….no less no more…no Holy glow…no miraculous qualities that once would assume it to have. The Bible so filled with contradictions that it was clearly written by many men and not a benevolent all knowing being. It’s greatest weapon…fear…not love.

          • Laylla

            And it was written by Man.

      • John Payne

        I did not see anything regarding kill the child who disobeys, among other famous parts from the bronze age nonsense book

      • Laylla

        These are HUMAN principles. I wont get into this in any detail beyond that.

    • Jason J

      Really? This list is just 10 painfully obvious things that nobody should actually forgetsand if you do then you’re an idiot. This is just a 10 self help list for people who must be suicidal.

      • Russell Mccormick

        Jason, I suppose that in order to forget, you first have to actually know, and to know, you have to experience. A year ago I would have read this and thought it was ‘just another list’ of idealistic crap, /next, But when you can associate a real life experience with the points mentioned it really does seem like a lesson which you will remember for the rest of your life. Suicidal? Naw, not since I was a teenager. It’s a list of things for people who have seen more than their own country and stayed outside the walls of their hotel, lived well outside their comfort zone in more ways than 1 ( at the same time ), had diarrhea in strange places where toilet paper is put in bins, not toilets and had a conversation with someone using only hand gestures and smiles. You’ll get it, in time.

        • herbs4mike .

          Actually Russell…. Just as you said….Jason is at the position, just before your position. And your position is just before a real spiritual position with God. Jason calls your position BS, and you call God’s position BS. Notice the trend…..

          • Laylla

            All due respect, but there is a notable difference here. I can post to Russell and he will respond. I can see him and I have proof that he exists. There is no proof that God exists. I’m not saying he doesn’t; I believe in the idea of God, but he is most definitely not following me on Twitter and he rarely shares posts on Facebook. So, Im sorry Herbs, but you can’t try and paint Russell into a corner with that one.

        • Ian

          As someone who has probably traveled a fair bit more than you, and had weirder diarrea in weirder places, i deffinately agree with jason on this one. This is fairly cliched pop-sprituality that was written to sell adspace. It’s taken a deep and abiding source of wisdome and refined it to its simplest high fructos cornsyrup version. It’s a list of mindless feel good tropes akin to serving gummybears for communion.

          • Laylla

            I’ll play your silly game. Let’s say they are silly little tropes of mindless shit. Who cares? They are full of positive energy and they are reminders that there are things more important in this life than your Mercedes or if your Apple stocks went up. If you see this as empty sweetener, then I challenge you to post your own feel-good and positive post in words that make people feel good about themselves because honestly, Ian there isn’t is a damned thing wrong with that.

      • Ashley Nakita Williams

        Maybe you, like the writer of this article, who took the time to reach out to people no matter what they may be going though, should try writing something more inspiring if you feel it’s lacking? Send us the link when you do.

        • Laylla

          He sounds like he is in pain.

    • felix72

      Then shut off the computer and go do something inspiring

  • Samantha Reynolds

    To let go of everything and allow what is meant for you to come back. Trust what is there is perfect. Adore the perfectly imperfect. Have faith in a grand design that’s always working in your favour. Amazing article dude. I felt that one.

  • Ahenata-May Courtney

    This was amazing! Thank you thank you thank you!!!

  • RachelJay

    Adding some Terence Mckenna i see?

    • livelearnevolve

      Not in this article but I’m a big fan of his work

      • RachelJay

        Oh yes. Under #9 is his quote. Just rephrased.

        • kelli

          so has chuck palahniuk and a lot of other people. it’s not only thought from one person

  • Patricia Raycraft

    Yo

  • Patricia Raycraft

    You are capable of more than you know. Nobody knows what it is they can do until they try. Failures are made only by those who fail to dare, not by those who dare to fail. Being afraid to try can stop all of us in our tracks and life is too short to spend it wondering what might have been if only we had had the courage to try.

  • Sina Mailer Daemon Djavadkhani

    nice!

  • Libby Newman

    Thankyou

  • http://slavamicic.com/ Slava Micic

    I could not have read this on a more appropriate day. Thank you.

  • Yolanda Prochnicka

    Can I get this is printed form? I’d really like to gift this to my son, and also to the children I work with (primary school), if that’s possible. Thanks

    • Ezra Luneta

      Well, you can do Ctrl+PrtSc, (taking a snapshot of what you’re viewing) paste to “paint” and then save them as jpeg images. In my case, I am using Google Chrome browser, I have saved up to 13 images.

    • Luke

      Go to your web browsers print setting (or press ctrl + P) and change the printer setting to pdf, or print to file which ever the setting is for your web browser. It is essentially the same as saving a document but in this instance, a web page. You can also choose which pages you want to print/save from just like you can when printing to a normal printer.
      I hope this helps :-)

  • Maria Victoria Davis

    ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL TO READ THIS ,THANKS .

  • ksnagra

    Live. Laugh. Love?

  • http://www.apictorialjourney.blogspot.com/ Saskia

    I really loved reading all of these things. Everything is so true <3

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  • http://www.the-babbling-brooke.com Brooke Bridges

    I truly love this. Ignoring the truth will only cause you stress. Accepting it whole heartedly will allow you to lead a better, more fulfilled life.

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  • Jessica

    The most important thing you could ever do is to pursue God. Seek and discover what that really means and then that whole article will come into reach.

    • danternb

      Can’t argue with that Jessica. I agree. No one knows us like He does.

    • Carol Harries

      Succinctly put, Jessica….you are SO right.

    • Skip Bowman

      As an atheist and secular humanist, it’s with profound appreciation that I notice there is no mention of religion in this list. I won’t argue Jessica’s point, but I won’t agree with it either. One does not have to embrace religious dogma or force others to accept the same to reach happiness and peace. This article displays how happiness and peace can come into reach, and it doesn’t include religion or deities. If you want to, go for it but don’t tell me I have to.

      • PoodleSheep

        In a way, pursuing god works out well. Forever searching for something that you’ll never find since it doesn’t exist will keep you busy for life. Granted, it’s a fool’s errand, but it’ll give you something to do.

      • Conrad Hilaire

        She didn’t say religion. She said God. But ok.

    • Darren

      Well…pursue enlightenment, however you define it.

  • Angela

    Always remember to be Grateful every single day.

  • Jessica Boakes

    #1 – Lemony Snicket: It is a curious thing, the death of a loved one. We all know that our time in this world is limited, and that eventually all of us will end up underneath some sheet, never to wake up. And yet it is always a surprise when it happens to someone we know. It is like walking up the stairs to your bedroom in the dark, and thinking there is one more stair than there is. Your foot falls down, through the air, and there is a sickly moment of dark surprise as you try and readjust the way you thought of things.

    Lovely article, very poignant.

  • Benn Fleming

    Having just sold everything to move to India (from Australia) to hang out with my two teenage children for a few years; this article really reminds me that I’m on the right path for me. Thank you for this reflection time

    • Wiz telly

      Hi Benn, how did you find that? I want to do the same in a few months except I am a twenty one year old female with hopes of gaining life and learning for my music/health-self. and don’t have much of savings. I want more out of this sedentary life people believe is worth living. Please share.

      • Douce

        Wiz, go spend a month walking the Camino de Santiago. Google it and do it, it’s a life changer. You will meet people from all over the world, they will become family, you will have the opportunity to reflect. It’s in Spain, it’s cheap, it’s incredible. Good luck

        • Dogsmart

          I just saw a movie about that. A young man dies when he started on the trail and his father finishes the journey. It was a pretty good movie with Michael Douglas. Don’t remember the name but saw it on Amazon Prime. Looks like a fun journey!

          • JLiv

            The movie is “The Way” and it’s Martin Sheen, not Michael Douglas. Super movie.

  • Elvira Nikolova

    I just “love” when someone decides to write “universal truths” about life.

  • Seamus Farrell

    Is the spelling mistake in the title of #4 supposed to be intentionally ironic?

    • Levi JW

      I know. Brilliant, regardless of intent.

    • Shazzle Dazzle FP

      I don’t see any spelling mistake in #4 unless it was fixed??

  • hearston

    No-one ever carrirs a burden thru life any greater than they put upon themselves

  • Andrew Hess

    Intelligence is not an excuse to decide for other people how they
    should live.

  • Andrew Hess

    The best efforts of a government public policy to meet the economic expectations of citizens almost universally have significant unintended negative consequences.

  • Arch Dandy

    11. SOME PEOPLE IGNORE TEXT TYPED IN ALL CAPS

    • Brandon Flynn

      I NEVER DO!

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  • BoilerPolyglot

    Do not be afraid to pursue your passions and loves simply because you feel others might find them strange. Often, people who might judge you for it simply have not found their own and have no idea how much richness and depth passions can add to our already too-short lives.

  • Leslie Indresano

    When someone shows you who they are believe them. Believe them the first time. I believe Maya Angelou said this originally. I always want to believe the best of others (make excuses) but now I just try to believe what they are showing me.

  • Walt

    Personally I hate the phrase “life is too short”. This seems to be the go-to phrase for people who maybe want to sound very profound and wise. I really don’t feel life is that short. I know so many people who have accomplished so much in their lives with the same life span as myself or anyone else for that matter. I feel the more accurate phrase should be something like “don’t squander your life”. If you live until 85 years old (an example) isn’t that plenty of time to achieve your goals provided they are reasonable goals? For sake of discussion I am not including any debilitating illnesses or accidents or pre-mature deaths that would hinder that age.

    • Joe Thaxton

      “Life is too short” How so when it’s the longest thing we do?

    • Darren

      What it means is: on your last day, you will have things you wish you had done or were planning to do someday. Except that it’s over and there’s no more doing.

      • Maurice

        Very true.

  • Levi JW

    #4 has got to be the best, cleverest, most serendipitous typo of all time. It’s not in the original article (your link is broken, btw – http://www.marcandangel.com/2014/01/29/10-painfully-obvious-truths-everyone-forgets-too-soon/) but it’s just spectacular!

    Some find of failure always occurs before success. Brilliant!

  • Catherine

    So many more. Being and doing are two different things. And one of my favorite Buddhist sayings “and don’t expect applause!”

  • Enzo

    if everybody in your city would die now. everyone you known love and ever loved.

    it wouldn’t make anny difference to 99.99% of the people. and the next morning people would still be having a breakfast and would still go to work living their normal lives

    • Skip Bowman

      Um, Enzo, if everybody in a city died, I think it would make some kind of difference to people outside that city.

  • Seif El Masry

    i have a lesson that i wanna add; that what comes out of any accomplishment is not the achievement itself or the title that you gained, but it’s the relationships and the good memories you had with the people you met in the way to this accomplishment.

    and just a notice, that’s the FIRST time i comment on any blog i have ever read, and its definitely worth it.

  • Sophie Mihalko

    Ask more questions – then something you did not think about will show up!

  • Larry WOODHOOUSE

    Life Lession … Way less complicated than we make.. SMILE… BE HAPPY…. The rest will simply fall into place.

  • AnneMarie Aldorasi-Derenard

    No one can do for you what you wonn’t do for yourself.

    • Skip Bowman

      Except paint your house or rebuild the transmission on your car. People can do that for you.

  • Ian Nuq

    Great job distilling these learnings. But i think it is not that people forget, many of us have read or been told these truisms. But to Learn them, you need personal, impactful experiences. These truths give comfort when we are shaken and context when we feel like the most extraordinarily unfortunate circumstances befall us.

    Painfully obvious indeed, in that the pain is what makes it stick in our hearts and minds.

  • danternb

    Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path. He will never steer you wrong.

    • Skip Bowman

      Notice this list didn’t include religion?

  • Lisa Seward Shultz

    I agree with everything you have said and am so guilty of not seeing these truths myself. I do believe that these things are important yes but, I believe the focus has to be on God and making peace and becoming who He made me to be. In every obvious truth, there IS God.
    Thank you for sharing this article.

  • Jeremy C Withrow

    seems like a relationship concept……………….i say fuck it and live your fucking life how you want too!

  • AromatiqueEssentials

    Love it and a great reminder! I think self-love is the biggest key to living your life to its full potential. To me self-love encompasses trust, belief in ones self, it gives us confidence and also to find your purpose what ever that may be. When we are living on purpose and love ourselves we have more awareness, give more support and personally I strive everyday to be the best person I can to myself, my pets, my environment, my friends and family and well everything! I hope to continually love, learn, grow and laugh <3

  • SensibleMan

    The idea that you should toss people aside who aren’t the “right match for you” is a disturbing new “truth” in the learned and “enlightened” community. There are plenty of people who are wrong for you, plenty of people who aren’t meant to be your lover, your best friend, your husband or wife. Those are choices you get to make. And you’re right in that you shouldn’t FORCE connections with people who don’t sincerely want to connect with you in the way you want, or make you feel like crap when you do connect.

    But the new age trend of cutting people off, which really isn’t part of Buddhism, Mysticism, or any old spiritual or religious teaching and is still utilized by people today who claim to be influenced by that line of thinking is flat out wrong. We begin to go down that road of devaluing human beings when we think “This person is negative, I’m going to cut him out”, “This person doesn’t have successful habits I’m going to cut her out” “This person doesn’t make me FEEL good, I’m going to cut them out”.

    If you understand energy, and you understand how someone else’s energy can affect you, then you also understand how the correct path is to learn to be unaffected by other people’s negative energy the way you would be unaffected by any other bad or negative thing that exists in the world. True spirituality is to rise above being affected by external factors and being in control of your own emotions, will, and consciousness.

    I see no difference between someone who ignores a homeless person and pretends they don’t exist and someone who ignores calls and texts and pretends they don’t exist. Just a different reason to devalue a human being (They’re annoying vs. they’re smelly and lazy). When you go down that path, there are a million and one reasons why you can justify to yourself why someone isn’t worth shit, and all the reasons forget the basic essence and value of human life.

    • Linda kobayashi

      I absolutely agree, usually someone who makes us feel uncomfortable etc is reflecting something back to us from our own lives, those people- in the Buddhist sense are our ‘teachers’ or friends as they make us do our human revolution ( Buddhist term) for self transformation. We can’t change other people only ourselves and when we have the courage to do this it causes our environment to change in a positive way also. The principle of the oneness of self and environment. Very difficult to do but actually causes us to reveal the power or true wonder of our lives or ( buddhahood). This is true happiness. Cutting people off will allow us to be seemingly happy , that kind of happiness is fleeting until we meet another person who draws out that same uncomfortable karma again, and it’s inevitable that you will so better to transform it than run away.

      • Carlo

        Linda, I believe that when two or more people interact they will “change” the memory of their life. How, how much and for how long depends only on the individual. Love (the one that we are capable of feeling) among other feelings will lead our behavior.

      • Jim Murray

        true happiness is not in a person and cannot be sustained in ones thinking,,, there is no ”karma” there is only lifes choices in putting the lord first,,,these are all BIBLE principles

        • Stephen Semanek

          Basic
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          Believe…

        • kenmac13 .

          these principles are universal to all people, if you found them to be in the bible as well than good for you. that means the people who wrote the bible were on to something. It has to do with being human, not necessarily with what you “believe”.

        • kish

          No they are principles the bible used. Stop saying the bible came up with things. Nothing it said was new. Stop putting false truths into this conversation please

          • Gabe

            MISCONCEPTION: The bible adopted morality and principles from things that are clearly evident, its not anything new, the authors just put on paper what was obvious.

            TRUTH: These things that are clearly evident, such as “murder is wrong”, are obvious because we were made in the image of a God who abhors evil. Morality is intrinsically accessible because God built us within a moral framework. Things are not good and evil because He “says so”, morality is a natural extension of his unchanging nature. Murder will ALWAYS be wrong, because God values human life. Because He values human life, we have been build to value it too. The bible was inspired by God, and He used human authors to speak to the world He created. It is a beautiful thing that we can sense these truths in our human experience apart from the bible, that is a precious reality. However, the bible can show you the heart of the Creator of this vast and awesome universe. It can call you into relationship with Him, and show you how to become reconciled to Him. There is no place I would rather be.

          • Mac

            Didn’t god kill millions of people?

          • Suzanne Mahoney

            No. God is the Creator, not the Terminator. When the Bible talks of vanquishing “enemies” and “demons,” The enemies are traits or things in ourselves or in our environment that we need to overcome, things that are counter-productive for us.

          • UkuleleMan

            Suzanne and Gabe, have you actually READ the old testament of the Bible?! In Genesis we have God killing off almost the entire population of the Earth because people were … too violent! (Really?! But killing everyone is NOT violent???) Go on a few more chapters and you see whole tribes, including women and children, being MURDERED by the Israelites, supposedly at God’s behest. The Bible says God (not man, but GOD) MURDERED 70,000 people because … King David had the audacity to do a census on his people. !!! Do you need more examples? “Murder is always wrong,” says Gabe, but then the Bible unabashedly seems to prove the opposite.

          • getinit56

            You are putting yourself on an equal terms with God. You are also taking out of context, historical accounts of mass genocide and labeling it with God’s hands. Now I’m not saying there isn’t instance of God’s anger in the old testament but when people site that as though we currently live in a b.c. era. You’re simply wrong. Things are different and there is ample reason to fear God but since Christ, its changed. Keep in mind as well. If you were the creator and say , fire ants were your creation. If many of them began biting you? Would it trouble you to walk off, grab a hose pipe and wash away the mound? Or pour gasoline on it? Or leave for a while to go to town to get some poison?

          • UkuleleMan

            Taking things out of context?? What are you talking about, Getinit56? Either the Bible is true or it’s all a bunch of tribal myths, legends and fables. Did God lead “His chosen people” to commit murder or not?? Pretty simple question, but you can’t have it both ways. Remember, Gabe wrote, “Murder will ALWAYS [emphasis mine] be wrong” and Suzanne wrote, “God is the Creator, not the Terminator.” Now you’re saying all that murder and mayhem in the O.T. doesn’t really count, huh, because that was then, this is now? What about “Jesus Christ, the same yesterday, today, and forever.” And fire ants?! Really?? If I created fire ants to sting things and then they stung me, I’d be pretty stupid to blame them instead of myself, wouldn’t I? Likewise, if an omniscient god created human beings with the ability and propensity to do nasty things to each other, why would he be angry when they did those things? What, he didn’t know what he was creating and now he’s all angry? Sheesh, you make God sound like a 5 year old kid having a temper tantrum. I doubt He appreciates you depicting Him that way.

          • Carl Tomacruz

            What does the Abrahamic god have to do with the article? There wasn’t any mention of religion in it.

          • Laylla

            We know this. But for some reason people NEED to stuff him in there anyway.

          • getinit56

            You are a foolish person. You continue to lump everything in a box so your wee lil mind can make some carnal sense of it. You don’t even know what your talking about and obviously don’t understand the difference between the old testament and new. Please. Give me the Bible chapters and verses in which you’re referring to that support your stance?

          • Laylla

            Do you literally follow the rules in the bible? Word for Word?

          • getinit56

            Are you just running down the whole board pretending to be some enlightened one that must respond to everything? Did you even read what I posted or are you just blabbering to be doing something?

          • Laylla

            Yes, I read what you posted. Now, would you answer my question? I will respond to what I want to respond to. If this is only come back you have for me then I guess we’re done here.

          • getinit56

            This is ridiculous. Nothing I said had anything to do with word for word literal following of the Bible. If anything , my point was about the person I responded to taking everything literally and putting themselves on par with God. You’re not making any sense, but for a short answer, no. I do not word for word follow the Bible. A lot of it is symbolism and depiction of past. In new testament, we should all follow as close to the commandments that we can. Your question has no point and no relevance to my post, but whatever.

          • Laylla

            You’re right. I stand corrected, I misread your post and for that I apologize. I, for one, don’t bother with the Bible. It was written by Man even though people will swear to the contrary. I severely dislike organized religion in any form. My religion is simple: Treat others with kindness and compassion, help those in need.

          • getinit56

            True. I appreciate your honesty. I will say in defense of the Bible. A man wrote it, yes, but you diminish the power of God, if you believe it, if you’ve ever felt it, to think that a being capable of creation does not have control over his word. Its vague, its specific at times and complex but so is society. Its meant to be read by masses to get the point in more ways than can be imagined. Its truly genius and its lasted thousands of years. Distention can be found easily but wisdom cannot. You will be just fine as long as you continue to honestly seek truth and don’t deny that hundreds of generations before you wasn’t all wrong. Our modern society is not as educated as they believe they are. I like your fire. Good night gal :)

          • Laylla

            I think many things like the Bible, in its raw and original form probably held more truths than now. I think when a certain event or story is passed down over the course of a few millennium, certain facts tend to get changed and at the present, that change can be dramatic. I also think much of what’s in the Bible actually did happen, if not exactly the way we read it now. Imagine the same people who wrote the original scriptures witnessing things in our world today. The very act of my responding to you would be considered either a miracle of God or an act of the Devil. I cannot claim to undeniably believe in God, although I do believe in the idea of Him and on that same token I will not sit here and say ” There is no God” because in all honestly, I have no way of proving such a claim.

            So, until I pass on from this mortal plane and know for sure, I will err on the side of caution and do what my idea of God would want me to and that is what I described in my previous post.

            I think our modern society is less educated than we have ever been because we have devices to think for us and this is sad.

            Good night to you as well, friend. :)

          • getinit56

            We as a people are not a chance mistake. We have souls. Remember that. This simple discussion you and me just had, is the divide in which will lead to all division. It encompasses everything. Faith, no faith or indifferent. All what this world faces can be drawn upon those lines and the farce of who is in actual control. I pray for all of us, yet I’m no saint by a long shot. :)

          • Suzanne Mahoney

            And we would remember the words of Bill Cosby: “i brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it!”
            The idea here is not to take ourselves too seriously, nor to presume to elevate ourselves too highly. As of yet we have been able to use only a tiny fraction of the miraculous brain God gave us. Maybe another reading of the scriptures, realizing that the real enemies we have are those inside us, could give us a tad more wisdom.

          • Laylla

            No, Man did. If there is a God, he probably washed his hands of us decades ago.

    • Riona Daidouji

      I definitely see you point, but at the same time there’s a difference between cutting someone out of your life because they’re, say, annoying (and speaking as an annoying person, I feel I would have very few friends if people went that far!), and cutting people out because they’re harmful to your mental health. I’m pretty sure the author meant the later.

      • Laylla

        Thank you. You saved me from having to explain that.

    • Melanie Charron

      I do see what you mean, I agree with your wisdom to a degree. However I know that I did the right thing when I finally walked away from the abusive person that I had in my life, I hope that he heals, but I cannot let him close to my heart, the life he has endured caused him to become a man that causes pain to those he loves. I spent nearly ten years in my efforts to love him despite his faults, justifying his actions. I do respect your choice of religion, but science has proven that we as human beings are affected by the emotions of other human beings. I believe that you cannot choose never to feel the negative emotions caused by internal or external sources, you can choose how you will handle those emotions.

    • Susan White

      I’d add that everyone you meet is you … in mirror form … and that’s where you can learn from those whom you “don’t care for” … you learn how you are in some way that you don’t like … when you “get” that part, you will Bless them for showing you where you can love yourself more, forgive yourself more and learn to have a more open heart….

      • Suzanne Mahoney

        Right on, Susan.

      • Laylla

        But you have to realize there are some people that just want to watch the world burn. Sometimes learning from these people means moving on without them. Some people are BAD for you, plain and simple. There is a vast difference between being forgiving and being a sucker. There are people that were in my life that did some serious harm and I mean that literally. I’ve forgiven them years ago, but I assure they are no where in it.

    • Connie Chaudhry

      I agree with you sensibleman!!! I find it scary when advise about ‘cutting people out of your life’ is given! What if it turns out you yourself are a very draining or annoying person and everyone cuts you out of their lives?!!! Wouldn’t be very nice would it? I agree with your perspective far more!

    • Jan Hawkins Piller

      Thank you Sensible Man. Your words resonate with me far more than the original post. Thank you.

    • Holly Marie Bagley

      I see where you are coming from but your reaction is very extreme. I think the author meant that we should recognize when people in our lives are harming us mentally, physically, or emotionally. When this happens, it is NECESSARY to remove yourself from them. I’m sure, since you are a Sensible Man, that you have heard the saying that if you want to become great, you surround yourself with greatness. So let me switch it up a little; “If you want to be loved, surround yourself with love, if you want to be kind, surround yourself with kindness, if you want to be honest, surround yourself with honesty….” Do you see where I am going with this? I know from personal experience, that the people you surround yourself with have an influence, whether you choose to believe that or not. Yes, you have a point when you say that you (as the individual) make the choice to not allow their behavior to affect you. However, I ask, how can it not affect you? You become most like the people you are surrounded by. This includes your immediately family as a young child, and friends and relationships you cultivate as you grow older, the experiences you have throughout your lifetime. It is true, you cannot control anyone but yourself, but when another person is dragging you down, instead of lifting you up-it is time to let go of that relationship. We are not, as humans, meant to be alone. We need companionship of some sort. If you want to lead a life that is fulfilling and full of true happiness, it is in your best SELF interest to let go of relationships or situations that no longer leave you with self respect, self security, or self love. It has nothing to do with how we treat the homeless or the “annoying” people we encounter. That happens to everybody, everyday. Showing charity, empathy, compassion, love…these things matter because it is all in how we REACT to these situations and in essence how we feel about ourselves. If we love ourselves enough we will recognize what benefits us and what does not. I read a quote recently that pertains very much to what I believe what the author is trying to portray on this point. “Respect yourself enough to walk away from ANYTHING that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.” This concept can seem scary for some individuals because they are in a bubble of a comfortable situation. When I use the word comfortable it doesn’t mean that situation is healthy, or good for you; it means that as an individual they have yet to see their own strength to move on and release themselves to “the great unknown”-to take a leap of faith, if you will. ALL life has value. No matter if you are homeless, in prison, a business man/woman, stay at home parent….whatever label you would like to put on it. You are simply overlooking the basic message the author is sharing-how can you love, if you cannot love yourself? If you find yourself surrounded by people who do bring you down and make you feel, “less than” why on earth would you allow them to be a consistent part of your life? How, in any way, can you love yourself when those around you are saying or showing you otherwise? No, you should not throw them aside, as you say, “a worthless piece of shit,” but disengage in consistent contact. This doesn’t mean you have to hate them-quite the opposite actually. Be kind and compassionate towards them, forgive them if they have wronged you, but don’t elude yourself into thinking you are higher above the human psyche in thinking you can ” out smart” their influences that they will have on you. We as humans, have a great capacity to love, create, share, evolve, learn and so on. We can also destroy, and hurt, and betray. We can be lead away to a path of self loathing if we allow ourselves to be surrounded by people who are hurting us. True, there are situations where we can influence others, however this is usually through example- not self sacrifice. It is a dangerous idea to stay in a relationship because you have the ignorant idea, that you can change them, or save them. That is a false, inaccurate state of mind. To me it seems that you see yourself above the laws of the universe and that you can somehow elude everything they are, by becoming their savior. That somehow you can rise above their “energy” and become unaffected. From that perspective I understand you are saying, if we choose to learn to become unaffected it has to go both ways. By your standards, not being affected by negative, should also meant not being affected by the positive, becoming “comfortably numb.” Frankly, Sensible Man, it is only a matter of time before their behaviors influence yours. Ignorance can certainly be bliss, now can it?

    • Mac

      Very true.

  • peter spriggs

    To Thy Own Self Be True…………….

  • Barry Church-Woods

    It’s none of my business what others think of me. They’ll rarely be spending as much time obsessing over that ‘thing’ I did than I think they are and not liking someone is as relative to taste as not liking a particular food, or artist. If they think you’re kinda meh… to them, you probably are. Move on and find someone who thinks you’re ace.

  • http://www.bizzebee.com/ Clair Trebes

    This is amazing – so simply obvious yet so many people get blinded by “life” they forget these … having them written down like this is a real reality check…. sharing this out now for all to see :)

  • Melanie Doc Scott

    BE CAREFUL FROM WHOM YOU TAKE ADVICE. It’s generally not a good idea to take life lessons from those who have not successfully navigated life, unless it’s to warn you “Don’t let this happen to you!” If someone is a perpetual failure at everything — or most things — the best advice they can give is not to do things their way.

    • Skip Bowman

      What about the fellow who falls into a raging river or slips on a slippery bit of pavement and calls out to others behind him, “Watch your step there!” Would you say, “Well, he fell, I don’t want to fall, so I’m not going to listen to him”?

      • Melanie Doc Scott

        That is why I said, and I quote, “unless it’s to warn you “Don’t let this happen to you!”” I have no objection whatsoever to someone pointing out the shortcomings in my arguments, but please read them first!

  • peter spriggs

    Some Years Ago I Saw This On A Wall In Brockley SE4 Is Still There In Large Made Letters….LIVE WORK LOVE LAUGH GATHER GREET STAY TRADE TRAVEL BELIEVE BUILD EAT DRINK & PLAY SEE HEAR TASTE TOUCH SIT BREATH SLEEP TEACH LEARN CARE CREATE SOW GROW & REAP…. I Liked So Much I Have It Copied On My Wall…..

  • Anno

    Beautiful piece, and I am now fortunate enough to be able to remember and appreciate them all. :-)

  • Ian Yanne Zulick

    A wonderful piece, but everything doesn’t happy for a reason… that was my only critique… Otherwise a truly wonderful and original article.

  • Pam Dragan

    Great read! Thanks so much for reminding me of the things that should be so obvious but we sometimes ignore. Over and over I was thinking, “this one was written for me” or I was thinking of forwarding it to someone else and highlighting a section that I think might help them. Wonderful job! Thanks!

  • Falthor

    the only thing I’d add to this is that “No One Owes You Anything.” it sounds like asimple idea but it encompasses a lot.

    Your wife/GF/Signifigant other? She’s with you because you make her feel a certain way that she likes. It’s love, sure, but if you want her to love you more, then it’s up to YOU to improve the things about you that make him/her feel that way about you.

    On the flip side, if someone randomly gives you something, or you “get that break” it was actually a selfish action that got you there, as the person who just became your beneficiary did so for the rush that they got from it, not because “deep down they wanted you to feel good”

    Ultimately we do things for ourselves, if they make other people feel good, that usually just makes us feel better knowing we’ve helped ourselves and someone else.

    No one owes you anything.

  • Anna Rapotu

    Such a great article :-) I’d add keep loving kindness in your heart towards yourself, family, friends, people you don’t like, strangers and all creatures of our planet, we all need to be more compassionate towards each other <3

  • Philip Benison

    Learn to be careful with any close relationship – trust has to be both ways and sometimes your partner cannot be trusted which only leads to conflict and eventual dis-trust and animosity.

  • Sarah Fullager

    What a great piece, really inspirational. In this world we live in, sometimes we lose track of these sensational values. What a great way to get people to remember.

  • TheDuchess Inga

    I think very important is What goes around comes around. If you are mean or do something bad, it will come back to you in the end. Same with good things. Help a person, be nice and smile, one day that person will help you:)

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  • LordLiverpool

    You forgot No 11 – Wisdom cannot be taught

    All Self Helpers are vampires!

  • Evanna

    understand your responsibility…. where it begins and ends…. you are NOT your children your parents, you partner – you are YOU…therefor, understand where you begin and where you ‘end’ so that you do not have expectations of others, and nor should you have…the only responsibility you have is to yourself….not much different than in an airplane going down – put your own mask on so you can assist others if they need it…and remember, others are simply a different, odd, unexpected view of you as we are all the same….one source, one love, one living….we all suffer the same birth, experience of living, and death, but we acknowledge them in personal and distinct manners, but that does not negate the events, and it will not change it either…. the abuses I have survived do not make me more or less than the abuser…all they do is create more of me and allow him to remain as he is until he decides to alter his choice….you live with choice, make good ones…. Namaste

  • Graham Dean

    The best way to deal with change is stoic mindfulness. Embracing change is fatuous modern management speak. The only people who genuinely embrace change suffer personality disorders. Embracing change is embracing the destruction of the habits & routines that enable us to cope efficiently with the world and stop us being overloaded (and form part of our sense of self & identity).

  • Melissa Henry

    Love is hard, but it is worth it.

  • Jeff Nelson

    Just found it on a friends facebook page so copied to my email and sent to loved ones around the united states. amen

  • Charlotte Robinson-Rocca

    I would add two thoughts: (1) What other people think of you is none of your business; and (2) Marriage is hard but love shouldn’t be. If you find it hard to love someone, don’t marry them.

  • jenna

    I want to say: appreciate it while you have it. Life is short, my partner died and I didn’t appreciate him enough when he was alive (he was worth his weight in gold and more!!!!!). I really liked your posts. I have learned a life lesson. I appreciate more now. People are gold, especially good people.

  • Colleen Marie Rhoads

    I don’t control the actions of other people…I control how I react to them….

  • Jenny Howse

    I Often get upset about things i have no control over. I forget that I have no control over what other people do and I let it bother me. I need to accept that I only have control over myself. Thanks to my wonderful husband who reminds me of this, it’s a hard habit to break!

  • Jim DeBussey

    What a powerful piece of lititure! You pretty much summes it up. If I was going to add one thing it would be that ” it is better to give than to receive”.

    God Bless,
    Jim
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  • cindy hussman

    As i look inside my brain, I say to myself,Am I insane… Oh what does it matter.. if i had a thought or it scattered. would I know the day ahead,or would just be a thought in my head? Oh, What does it matter?

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  • http://www.taniadesa.com/ Tania DeSa, Passion Igniter

    Hits the soul! Thanks for the reminders to live, let go and just get things done. Oh and that the goal is in the journey.

  • Karen Coutts

    I’d add: Be honest. With yourself and with others.

    It seems simplistic, but it was one of the most liberating decisions I have ever made. Even if I was the one that screwed up (“Yes, I caused the damage to the vehicle,” or “Why did I need stitches? Because I was an idiot and used a sharp knife to separate frozen burgers.”). It gave me the ability to take control of situations around me since I wasn’t trying to hide from them or remember lies. Kind of like ripping a band-aid off quickly – get the truth out there, so you can move on faster LOL.

    My children also know that I won’t lie to them. They ask me a straight out question, they’re going to get an honest answer. They may not like it, but it’ll be the truth. I’m hoping as they grow up (we’re just edging into the teen years now, give me strength…and wine) that this will keep our channels of communication open.

    I’m not saying to be a prick about it – I’m still tactful and diplomatic…recognizing HOW to tell the truth is a very important skill in any situation. But it’s totally worth it.

  • Peggy Nolan

    Excellent piece! Live from your heart center. Trust your gut.

  • Alexa Siragusa

    “the clock never stops for you [Alexaaa…]“

  • Jeff Cotrupe

    A dear friend shared this post with me and it is so good on so many levels. Thank you for every word.

  • Cassandra Bellantoni

    This is a great list. I would add: Care about what you put in your body. Do not eat toxic plants, processed chemicals disguised as food or sick, unhappy animals. Buy and eat organic, natural, whole foods and humanely raised, properly fed animals. This choice is a win-win, for you, those who love you, the honey bees and all of Mother Nature’s Earth. CARE!

  • Louisa Lyminge

    There is always a step that you can take towards your dream, however small. Take that step. The time will come when your dream has been accomplished, and you will look back and think that it all began with that small step in the right direction.

  • Cherie Hanson

    When nothing is happening is when everything is happening.

  • freefromfairy

    What a fabulous post! I was made redundant a few years ago and it was the best thing that could have happened. We now have less holidays and fancy things but i get to do what i believe in trying to help others through my website whilst being around for my kids. I love life! V

  • http://www.beauty4brokegirls.blogspot.com/ Shasha Rshan

    this is a very good article. very enlightening. Seriously most of us ignore these facts and get lost forgetting that you need to love yourself first. Thank you for this article.
    http://www.beauty4brokegirls.blogspot.com

  • Carol Harries

    If adhered to, these life lessons would radically transform a human being. They are very well written, but are not original ideas as each one can be traced to the teachings of Jesus with one notable difference: the Bible tells us that ower to change does not come from ourselves because we are flawed beings; it’s only when we invite the Holy Spirit to rule and reign in our lives that we can be transformed into the beings God created us to be. Point no. 8 admonishes us to “love ourselves”, a point Jesus Himself made when He said “love your neighbour as yourself”. But one can only begin to love himself when he sees value in himself and that revelation can only come as he recognises how much He is loved by God Himself. God loves each one of us SO much that He sent Hisone and only Son to die for us to pay the penalty for our sin. Would anyone else you know, even your closest friend, go as far as giving up their life on your behalf to demonstrate their love for you?
    Point no. 1 is also flawed in that if we haven’t acknowledged Jesus as Lord then we DO need to fear death. The bible teaches us categorically that the penalty for sin is death and an eternity in hell, but the good news (that being the meaning of the word “gospel”) is that Jesus has already paid that penalty for us, as already stated. I hear so many people say “God is a good God and would never send anyone to hell”. True, God IS a good God, and He loves us too much to coerce us into loving Him and following Him. He gives us free will to choose…but living life without Him leads to hell but living life with Him at the centre leads to an eternity with Him in heaven. It’s our choice. Which will you choose?

    • LordLiverpool

      Show me one concrete piece of evidence that god exists and I will be his No1 Fan. Otherwise I am afraid it’s just a nice story to tell little children and the old so they won’t cry when they realise they are going to die.

      • Carol Harries

        Can you prove “love” exists? Can you point to the wind? There are some things which cannot be proved or measured in scientific ways but the moment we choose to accept them by faith, our eyes are opened. Jesus said to His disciple Thomas who didn’t believe that the risen Jesus was the real Jesus “Because you have seen me, you have believed; blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.” God rewards those who put their faith in Him by revealing Himself to them. This is what happened to me 25 years ago.
        Besides all this…take a look around at the beauty of creation. Think about how of all the billions of people on earth, no two people are exactly alike…each with his/her own unique fingerprints…is that not the work of a Divine, creative Genius?

        • LordLiverpool

          “Faith”

          Faith is simply pulled out whenever attempted arguments based on reason and evidence fail.

          I have faith that unicorns exist.
          Just because you have not seen one doesn’t mean you cannot say they do not exist.
          My faith is just as valid as your faith.
          Your faith isn’t any stronger than my faith.
          You don’t have the monopoly on faith.
          I can use faith to say my unicorn religion is true and yours is false.
          We cant both be right.
          Maybe we are both wrong.

          If we apply logic, reason and evidence the existence of a god cannot be defended.

          Don’t pin your hopes on a possible after life, instead endeavour to make this actual life that you are living right now a better one for yourself and for those around you.

          “Existence is random. Has no pattern save what we imagine after staring at it for too long. No meaning save what we choose to impose. This rudderless world is not shaped by vague metaphysical forces. It is not God who kills the children. Not fate that butchers them or destiny that feeds them to the dogs. It’s us. Only us.” – Alan Moore

          • Carol Harries

            I’d like to respond to your points in reverse order, if I may…firstly, I concur with Alan Moore who points out that it is Man that is responsible for butchering people. It takes me back to the point I made earlier that man is inherently sinful and without God, has the propensity to do evil. Those who blame God for all the atrocities in the world need to realise that God’s heart breaks at the sight of what His children are doing to one another because of the hatred in their hearts. But because He gave man free will to follow his own life, man chooses to follow his own evil desires.

            Secondly, it is impossible to love God and not love the ones He created. I am endeavouring to make this life a better one for me and for others, with God’s help. The closer my walk with God, the more sensitive I am to His promptings and His guidance.
            Yes, I do pin my hopes on a beautiful afterlife where there will be no sickness, no pain, no grief, no hatred. The bible says “if only for this life we have hope in Christ, we are to be pitied more than most.” How do I know there’s an afterlife?…..because Jesus said so. Why should I believe Jesus?…well: He claimed to be “the Way, the Truth And the Life…and the only bridge between God and man. Now, you have 3 choices:
            a) you can believe Jesus was a liar
            b) you can believe Jesus

          • Carol Harries

            …contd….
            was a madman …or…
            c) you can believe Jesus is Who He said He was…Lord.

            Why is Jesus above all other gods?…all other gods are dead and buried. Jesus rose from the grave and is very much alive today. I know that to be true because I see His power at work in my life.

            What is the point of putting your faith in an unicorn?? If you have problems, don’t you choose to discuss them with someone who’s been there themselves and can offer advice and help? So it is with Jesus. He endured betrayal, injustice, beatings and even the pain of crucifixion. He knows better than anyone what suffering is all about. I would sooner talk to a Living Being who knows me inside out than to a unicorn!!

          • Carol Harries

            …sorry..this page keeps freezing.
            I really don’t want to be facetious, LiverpoolLord. All I can say is that I had an incredible conversion experience back in Feb. 1989 when God proved to me how real He was. No-one can ever take that away from me. Don’t try and limit God to human thinking. God’s ways are totally different to man’s.
            Again, with regards to the afterlife, I would sooner put my trust in the truth of Gods word and be proved wrong when my life comes to an end than trust in human reasoning and find that God’s Word was true after all whilst being tortured forever after.

          • LordLiverpool

            I am not trying to convert you. You are entitled to your beliefs, life is too short to impose beliefs on others. In fact I envy you, I envy the comfort religion brings you, I wish I had your .convictions. However when I examine the evidence objectively, I believe Jesus did exist, but I don’t believe he was the son of God, You see I think its obvious that religion as just an invention of mankind. To reverse a popular expression:
            God made Man in his own image.
            more likely
            Man made God in his own image.

          • Carol Harries

            Don’t worry…you won’t sway my belief. Having lived in the futility of an agnostic’s way of thinking for the first 31 years of my life and comparing that with the joy and the freedom I have now, nothing or noone could persuade me to want to return to it!
            Likewise, i’m not trying to convert you either, but that said, if you envy the comfort I get from being a Christian and the strength of my conviction then I don’t know why you wouldn’t want to step out and just ask God to come into your life and prove the reality of His existence. He is not waiting for you to have reached some level of academic understanding before He’ll step in….in fact, the less we lean on our own understanding, the more God loves it.

            You are right about religion. Did you know that God hates it too? You only need to read the gospels to see how much Jesus detested the Pharisees’ emphasis on keeping rules & regulations, putting adherence to law above loving others. Jesus did not die to bring us another religion. He died in order to restore our relationship with

          • Carol Harries

            …..God, our heavenly Father which was broken in the garden of Eden.

            Regarding your last statement, making God into OUR image is a contravention of one of the 10 commandments. With billions of people on our planet, each with his/her own idea of what God is like, who then is right? No, we need a yardstick by which we measure ourselves. What is God truly like? ….read the Bible, look at Jesus and talk to Him and hear His response.

            God bless you LordLiverpool. Thank you for your honesty.

          • Rick Lake

            Carol, i once believed in creation, god, christianity, based on all the natural beauty, gift of life, the laws of the universe, the complexity of species etc and that my ultimate conclusion was that something outside our understanding kick started all this therefore god. The more i looked into it, the more i read the less i was convinced. This came about because i could not, nor want to live such a restricted life, and funtamentally felt sacrificing real existance for the promise of eternal afterlife was flawed thinking. I am a good person, from good non religious family and could not accept eternity without them and replacing that love with any other, not even gods. This is a matter of presence vs absence. I am closer to my families struggles and sacrifices and their belief in me, their forgiveness, their acceptance than that of a spiritual or faith based ideal. So i searched for evidence and the volume of unsubstantiated false claims and testimonies about miracles, gold teeth happening overnight to members of certain churches, false healers everywhere yet they still use real doctors for real ailments, gems falling on the congregation at certain churches and blatant mistruths and supernatural claims the world over was staggering. The discrepencies in the bible and other religions are many, the old testaments paganistic rituals and sacrifices, the malevolent nature of god, the historical innacuracies, the contradictions, the one true faith is shared and different depending upon where you live and all religions claim true salvation only lies with their faith. These variations, translations over the years between languages, parts completely rewritten and interpretated cant be the word of god which is the very notion of the book. A book that has the premise of our damnation, that we are forever fated, flawed, cast out, sinners destined to live in an evil, sin filled world forever more because Eve ate an apple and damned us all in this mortal world and for eternity in the next is unbelievable, the punishment does not fit the crime. Nor does it match a benevolent, omnipotent, loving god. The complexity of life is far easier explained through natural selection adapting to change over a very long time than the inclusion of an even greater more complex being. A personal god that answers to prayer, and envolves himself in the lives of his faithful worshippers yet remains hidden to allow free will and the resulting, evil, pain and suffering that accompanies it on such massive scale is not a loving or just god. Nor is it free will when he knows everything that has or will ever happen but could not stop eve from sinning, or remove satans influence from the garden, our world. A god that only shares revelation with some and not others cannot be measured in anyway – yet quite simply he could make himself known to all and obtain a global spirituality, worship and goodness and relationship with man, far surpassing anything weve seen that would strengthen belief and righteousness. If he created us with the gift of intellect then why base our acceptance of his existance on faith instead of conclusive overwhelming evidence and then damn us for eternity when we conclude he doesnt exist or that theres no way of ever knowing for certain if he does or doesnt?

          • Carol Harries

            Hi Rick. Thanks for taking time to express your views. As it is extremely late, I’ll keep my response brief. The main thing I wanted to contest is that, rather than being restrictive, following God is the most liberating way of life as I am not bound by rules, laws and regulations but rather by an inward desire to do the things that please my heavenly Father and to stay clear of things that displease Him. Imagine a game of football with no goal posts, no lines, no referee, no rules….it would be utter mayhem. The enjoyment comes from knowing the parameters and abiding by the rules. That way, everyone gets to play fairly. So it is with God’s laws; they are there, not because God is a sadistic kill-joy, but so that we can all live life, respectful of one another.
            You say that you once believed in God, but sadly, Rick, that does not necessarily make you a Christian. Even the devil believes in God and he certainly is no Christian! It takes more than mental assent; it is to do with relationship with Jesus.

          • Carol Harries

            …sorry, it keeps freezing…
            …it is to do with having a living, vibrant relationship with Jesus.
            You say that you are a good person…great..I don’t doubt it, but who defines what “good” really means? We are to measure ourselves with God’s standard and when we do that, then we realise how far short we fall. No one can attain to His standard this side of eternity which is why Jesus had to come. Although it’s difficult to explain and for you to understand, perhaps, God now sees us through His Son, clothed in HIS righteousness, not our own.
            I agree with you that in this day and age where the Spirit of God is being poured out in churches all over the world, there are a lot of people who exaggerate about the manifestations and claim healings that are unsubstantiated, but please don’t measure what God is doing through just a handful of carnal Christians. All these things áre just evidence that we are in the end times and Jesus will return soon. Don’t be caught dead without Him, Rick. X

    • Skip Bowman

      Once again, the religious zealots take someone else’s work, hijack it to (their particular and specific brand of) deity, and then tell others how wrong they are because those others don’t believe as they do. Waxing fat off the author’s sweat.

      • Carol Harries

        How many times does God get the credit for things He has authored and yet someone else gets the credit for having made some amazing discovery or breakthrough when, all the time, The answer was in the bible?

        • Hardiment

          That doesn’t happen. I am profoundly disturbed by those who ‘thank the lord’, when surgery goes well or when a life is saved under the rubble. What should be thanked is the tireless hard work of those surgeons, those people who moved the rubble. The countless hours people put in to safe the lives of others and not a nonexistent deity with no empirical evidence. You are welcome to your beliefs but do not decry the hard work someone put in without a god. Amazing breakthroughs are made by those who don’t sleep at night because they are too busy working, who risk their sanity and livelihood striving for innovation. When somebody is found under the rubble, no one questions that it’s a ‘miracle’ but no one ever wonders whether ‘god’ is the reason there was an earthquake in the first place.

          • Carol Harries

            You have taken my comment completely out of context, Hardiment. What I meant was things such as: on the radio a short while ago, I heard that some clinic or other had come up with a supposedly “new theory” that laughter was good for the body. The man in charge of the research probably paid thousands of pounds to discover this and got the credit for making such a “groundbreaking discovery” when, centuries ago, King Solomon is quoted in the bible as saying “laughter is good for the soul”…!
            It’s so ironic that when life goes well, so few people thank God for His goodness and provißion, yet at the first sight of things going wrong, He is the first to get blamed. Can I ask you a question: if you don’t believe inthe existence of. God, how can you apportion blame to Him for earthquakes etc….?

          • Hardiment

            I’m not really sure what you’re trying to convey with your example. The concept of laughter being good for the soul has been around for eons, the study likely was to scientifically test and find evidence to substantiate the claim. To believe in something with evidence is faith and faith is bogus. Faith is what makes people think creationism is a viable model for teaching children the origin of life. There is no goodness that comes from god, only humans. I don’t blame god or any deity for natural disaster, as there is no god. I would posit that the existence of natural disasters would deny the existence of a god, especially if he is so benevolent as religion tells people. If he was responsible for goodness in the world then he is responsible for all the pain and suffering but no that is all Satan, another fictional character invented by man to keep people in a subservient position.

  • Amna Alison Matthews

    It is the people around you who are worth more than any possessions,helping a friend in need even if it means it costs a few pounds or more is more satisfying than investing in a new belonging that may offer short term comfort but that is it ,a good friend will always remember when you have been there for them and will then be there for you should the tables turn

  • Melanie Charron

    I must admit, I nearly missed this gem of knowledge due to the negative title. Otherwise, It’s a relief for me to see these very wise truths written without any kind of religious meaning attached. I would like to elaborate a little on number six. Forgiveness, it’s better to know that a person has grown from the knowledge earned from a mistake than to hear empty words; “I’m sorry”. (Having said this, I usually check the source before forming an opinion or sharing and commenting, but these words stand alone!) I would like to know the author, This information really should be included here.

  • Phil Priestley

    Even the very worst moments are just moments – and no matter what, they pass by, just like a summer holiday.

  • Zeeshan Habeeb

    I always feel depressed, I loved a girl very much.. but when I told her, She disrespected me… I am feeling down since years. I dont know how to come out with this..

    • Howard Brookes

      I feal really sorry for you, but hang on, please try to hang on, and one day someone very special and beautiful will suddenly appear, and you’ll be so happy that you hung on and didn’t give up, and you might remember these words.

  • http://www.thoke.co.za Seth Alexander Ka’la Joubert

    One of the biggest lessons I have leaned in life is to learn to distinguish between the guidance from the Ego and intuitive guidance. Guidance from the Ego always comes with analysing, fears and complications. Intuitive guidance comes with a sense of peace and excitement. I have met so many people who get confused between the two. It is safe to always remember that the Ego is simply information regarding previous events in life. The intuition is that part of oneself which is untouched by the physical world, remaining unaffected by natural laws, and always making you aware of the untapped potential within yourself. When you feel inspired, listen to the ideas. Your intuition is guiding you to become, and manifest, that great potential you are in truth…

  • Jay Neric

    11. God created us
    12. God loves us
    13. God will judge us according to His law

    14. God will save those who put their full faith on Him alone and justified by the Love of Jesus Christ (John 3:16)
    15. Our life will end. We don’t know when or how but those who believe and trust in God and believe on Jesus have purpose after this life. That is to Worship God alone forevermore.
    16. God loves us.

    • Skip Bowman

      As a writer, I know it took some serious time and consideration to compile this list. Why do you suppose religion isn’t here?

  • Lucy

    This is my first time on this site, but not my last. I shared the article on facebook and it seemed to connect with so many people who re shared it and commented. Thought provoking stuff! Thanks.

  • Kiema Ngovi

    That was the most brutal honest 10 minutes i have had in a long time.Thank you for that.

  • deek k

    The way that you wrote number 1 and number 3 don’t make sense (in the content not the headline). For myself, and several people I know, we are living a very busy life BECAUSE we are being purposeful. It’s counter to sitting around waiting for life to happen. We volunteer, we spend time with friends and family, we do things for people without them knowing it, we work hard and passionately. It’s always a balance, making the most out of life and not overwhelming it. And it is certainly bad to make yourself busy just to impress others, and also if it stresses you out to the point of losing productivity, shortening lifespan, or you start snapping at people and causing more harm than good.

    But it, in my mind, is better to try to fill your time with productive activities and then burnout every now and then, than to waste time sitting on the sofa. BTW, I am an “overthinker” and I don’t count sitting and thinking about things as time wasted. I sit still and tell people I am busy. I DO NOT tell people I am busy because I have to catch the next episode of the Voice.

  • Cowlady

    That was very interesting, and almost passed it by! One thing in there applies to my life at present, so going to apply it. Thanks

  • AnnMarie Cunningham

    I am always tired of the constant bickering at work. Most of the time it is because someone misunderstood an act or a statement when in fact it is simply because the disgruntled person doesn’t have all the information. Simply put “Becarful of perception, as it might not be reality.

  • ajclarke

    Although I will point out that these truths would not be painful if you forgave yourself and loved yourself and fully accepted where you are in your own development.

  • Estomich Smestad

    True and inspirational. thanks

  • cliff

    havent been happy in …well forever…ruined mylife with drugs n alcohol…contracted hep c…shoulder n back r fucked cant find even a dishwashing job..welfare wont help me waaaaa…fuck life and all its lessons cause none of it means shit in the end!!!! And this is on a good day!!!!lolol F.T.W. and every HUMAN on it!!!! sincerely

  • wolfman79

    Can’t add anything to that!

  • lulublurred

    Amazing piece!! I would add… as hard as it is, remember to try and keep your heart as open as possible. Vulnerability is a strength, and if you can be emotionally brave, you’ll live a fuller life.

  • Cristina CuellarJackson

    very true!

  • Ivana Bencic

    I found this page today. I love this page from today. Thank you.

  • Paul Stocks

    My Grandfather said ” it doesn’t matter what happens to you in this lifetime, good or bad, just as long as you learn by it”. He was born in 1895!

  • Gely Hartasanchez

    Thanks for sharing your knoledge, I am going to remeber every second. Regards!!!

  • dan mclaughlin

    Action without thought is basically stupid.

  • Siobhan Scott Brodowski

    Sing out loud, laugh as much as you can and share that laughter, be humble and pray and go to bed smarter than you woke up and do a good deed everyday…..

  • abbey moore

    this is an awesome piece. very inspiring and thought provoking. i do get confused though when it talks about living the life YOU want to lead – how far do you go with this if you are married?

  • Uncle Hal

    “Love your neighbor as yourself”, said Jesus. Someone asked,”Who is my Neighbor?” He said,” its anyone who needs you”. At 65 am very glad folks gave me a second chance, gave me a smile or even a hug..For all of you who have invested time in me,”Thank You”!

  • Nikki Crowley

    I absolutely love this article. Is there anyway to print this? I would like to have this on me at all times so I can continuously remind myself of the incredible truths that we all need to practice.

  • Michael Gibson

    Here are some more Truths.

    the truth of suffering
    the truth that nothing here lasts, everything is transient
    the truth of life, we’re all given the sentence of life, with no reason given, we have to live
    the truth of death and our ignorance of it, what happens to us and others
    the truth that everything we do here is totally meaningless in the eyes of eternity, if anyone can even visualize eternity
    the truth that no sensation can be sustained, pleasure, pain…the whole spectrum
    the truth of living in ignorance of higher knowledge, the wisdom that
    really matters, extremely few know it and have access to it
    the truths of return and recurrence
    recurrence is the unavoidable repitition of events that happens to us from our
    actions in previous lives, karma that we have to pay
    we return to this place after we die with no memory of former lives because we have not earned our way out of it
    the truth of uncertainty….nothing is guaranteed in this world, people
    take oaths and break them every day, and insurance is not guaranteed
    the truth of accidents, anything can randomly happen, including
    unimaginable atrocities….wars….poverty…illnesses….famines…
    the truth of action, once an action is performed, it cannot be erased
    another truth of action: the consequences of an action are always greater than their cause
    the truth of the way out of suffering and ignorance, the eightfold path

  • Lisa Bowers

    I’m so happy to find and read this — stuff I really need to take to heart and remember. Just curious because I’m still not to computer tech savvy, is there a way for me to easily print this? I’m still a paper person.

  • Charly

    So good. It makes me think of something I heard once that adds onto number 10. Create the change you want, don’t wait for change to happen. One makes you feel powerful, the other makes you feel powerless.

  • Leticia

    In my personal experience I would add:
    No one/nothing is completely necessary for you to live.
    (sad but true)

    Sometimes we tend to think that we NEED certain people or things to keep going in life. We attach ourselves in an unhealthy way and we cannot imagine our lives without some people. We are not sure if we can even function without them.

    People/material things can be replaceable and we should not base our value on them. Because of this, we need to understand we can also be replaced by others. Being humble, never be full of ourselves and give the best of us will keep our feet on the ground. So if you loose your job, boyfriend or friend, dont worry life continues keep looking for the right one ;).

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  • ibsharkbait

    Hold on to your integrity. love your friends, harm ye none.

  • Barbara Yaffee

    We always have a choice. Perhaps not in the events that occur but in how we experience those events.

    ‘Your life is yours alone’. Rise up and live it!’ (from the sword of truth)

    Thanks for the thought provoking post!

    Inspired Girl aka Barbara
    http://www/inspiredgirl.me

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  • Mike Tennent

    You are the sum of what you give!

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  • Alexander Gomez

    Great article!!! Really worth reading and re-reading. Among the many points, the one that stood out the most was how advertising and media disempowers you to think the way they want. I like to watch documentaries of successful people and people in the forefront in their field and its funny how very few know anything about pop-culture.

  • P. Moses

    I’m extremely happy to read an article on life that didn’t include religious bullshit.

    • kaygen

      I agree and find humour in your handle.

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  • Bill Mallory

    Only a selfish asshole would use the last piece of toilet paper in the house.

  • Richard Rehsler

    I liked every point made here. You ask us to add another? This might go under #9 (or stand on its own): Be happy with what you have because there is no guarantee that you’ll be any happier with what you do not have.

  • Rachael Banda

    Powerful piece of writing and truthful.What i know for sure is that you can not have everything in life but knowing your needs really helps. Thank-you

  • Junifer S. Valdevieso

    Lots of lesson to learn for.

  • Kkuja

    “If everything seems under control, you’re not going fast enough.” If you feel like you are in control of things happening around you, you are not utilizing your full potential. (Yes, this is really close to item 4 of this list.)

  • mshaiq

    I honestly need to print this and stick it to my sleeve to read every day till it sinks in. Thank you so much!

  • Ruth King

    Do not disregard God as he can be there for you in your darkest hour and can open up a wealth of strength you did not know you had. Do not be too proud to pray.

    • lamorpa

      God who? Which one do you have a personal faith-based belief in?

      • Ruth King

        I am a Christian,but whatever God you choose really..

        • lamorpa

          :-)

          • Ruth King

            :)

  • Edward Mackay

    In contradiction to Ruth King. You only have one finite life, make the most of it. There is no Heaven or Hell so try and make that idea of Heaven down here on earth for you and the ones you love.

  • Ruth King

    Nobody living knows what lies after death. I realise we live in a largely secular society,but I believe by voicing your worries,pain and thoughts out loud and forming them into a prayer is a powerful and useful part of being a helpless human being in this huge universe. Just throw your voice out into the nether and see what happens!

  • Clara Swan

    What other people think of you isn’t very important because their viewpoint is shaped by their own personal life perspective.
    Some things in your life don’t happen because you aren’t ready for them yet.

  • lamorpa

    #9: Your dogmatic practices and deities are personal to you. Don’t attempt to say they are true for others.

  • Harry

    Buddhism Lite.

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  • JambonGris

    I got one truth out of ten years of marriage. “You can be 100% right in what you’re saying and still wrong to be saying it!”

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  • brianne327

    I love this!! These are the things i try to remember everyday. I have recently started preping for a thru-hike on the Appalachian trail. Being secluded for days and weeks on end teaches u to what really matters and how to just let go and be. I know its not for everyone but i highly suggest just finding a place that does that for u and go there periodically. Re-center yourself and get on with your life happier than u were before.

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  • Anne Carey

    Good to have a reminder to love ourselves. I wish everyone contentment in their lives despite what they may have or who they may be.

  • Hanzesque

    I really love this- shot it off to my boyfriend so that he can love it, too! “Busy doesn’t always mean productive” = something I needed to hear today.

  • Alexander

    Don’t waste your time on jealousy -sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind -the race is long and at the end it’s only with yourself ;))

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  • kgal1298

    I have to say even if a list tells you not to spend time doing something you don’t have to listen do what you want when you want. If you generally enjoy watching a movie rather than running out or you like reading about Kim Kardashian then do it and do it without shame or worry. The fact is we create our own happiness and for me I’ve followed that happiness straight out of my comfort zone and into a life I would have never imagined I’d live, but I am and I am generally happy even if I do spend an entire day watching old seasons of Buffy The Vampire Slayer on Netflix.

  • Bob Grow

    Most of us aren’t going to be terribly successful or fulfilled in our lives. We may not love ourselves or have reason to. Better to love others. Have modest expectations and enjoy what you can. Don’t hold it against yourself unreasonably that you are not a high achiever. Try to make your part of the world a little better and hope for some good luck. If you come out on top, thank your lucky stars.

  • Skeptic7

    You live the life you create for yourself? Actually we are part of a social system and a physical environment. Other people’s choices have a huge impact on the course and direction of our lives.

    A woman who is struggling with breast cancer at 35, whose husband leaves her with 3 children because he has “better options,” has not created her situation. Throw in a child with a drug addiction, or a serious illness like Multiple Sclerosis, and lives can revolve around managing those situations. That’s coping, heroically.

    Do the people standing in line for toilet paper for hours in Venezuela deserve that? How have those individuals created that situation, especially those who did not vote for a communist leader? They are victims of corruption, incompetence, and a brutal government.

    When the 12 year old daughter of a cardiac surgeon was brutally raped and murdered while walking to school, his life, and the life of his other family members revolved around bring the killer to justice, a very long process. This was not the life they chose for themselves.

    The list could go on and on:

    The husband who cares for his wife with alzheimers.

    The young wife who cares for her handicapped husband who was the victim of a mugging in DC, and suffered brain damage. In a news article she said: His personality is totally different than the man I married. To say that she is living the life she created – is absurd, and cruel, and blames the victims.

    No good choices, only less bad ones.

  • Skeptic7

    It’s not other people’s job to love you? If everyone believed that why would anyone take responsibility to care about other people? See the lonely homeless person? “Not my job to love him. He’s has to do that himself.” Really?

    Children in poor or dysfunctional families desperately need someone to love them. When they don’t, they feel they are unlovable.

    How do we teach our children, or our adult children, to learn to surround themselves with caring loving people and not toxic narcissistic vampires, if we don’t teach them to have expectations that people should care about them, respect them and love them?

    My rule would be: There are caring loving considerate people in the world. Find them, emulate them, and surround yourself with those kinds of people. Don’t spend too much time thinking about yourself, put other people first and you will be happier.

  • Meredith Rosenvall

    I love this article… When will the world as a whole see the big picture??? I am so ready for some big changes that don’t focus around power and money hungry fools! Lets start really using our talents to make the earth a better place as a whole…

  • Caitlin Leigh Jones

    I’ve never commented on a site like this before, but I have to! I feel like this article has just changed my life! It just REALLY resonated with me somehow. Thank you! Now, after I print it and put it on my wall, I’m off to embrace life and face my biggest fears! :)

  • grailpuffin

    Some of this is perhaps valid for the 1st world. Sadly for the 3rd world, all they get is point #1.

  • Louise Brinton

    what other people think of you is none of your business…such a hard one to remember!

  • Alix Bradley

    beautifully true .

  • stephanie

    Right now in my life my outlook has not been optimistic like it would normally would be…I’m usually the one sharing wisdom and knowledge with those around me and that itself usually keeps my attitude more positive and upbeat. I try to help others look outside their box to help them understand trials and tribulations they may be struggling with. It’s good to be reminded sometimes that there is another way to think and remember my negativity can be short lived. Sometimes with the weight of everything I forget

  • http://www.citisun.com/ John Coonen

    Dead on.

  • Libo silva

    is this from bible?

  • W Paul Pulsipher

    I have one for you to add to this list. Stay humble about your abilities, because no matter how good you are at what you do there will always be someone better, but stay confident anyways and work until your role model is becomes your rival.

  • Christian Valenzuela

    Be KINDER to people, is also something I learned last year. The internet is extremely cynical in these modern times, so people begin to think that way all the time. People I would meet would often tell me I was a really smart guy, and I know I was an asshole because of it. If you keep being cynical or a smartass you may stay that way and be a 40 year old asshole and not even realize it. That was scary for me, so I made a big change.

  • Glenngus

    IT IS SO BE, This is my new mantra. Yes I know four two letter words but life is meant to be simple, so is this mantra. IT (being life) IS, on a moment to moment basis the flow of life takes you into the unknown. There is no way to change what each moment will bring IT just IS. So BE, Relax, enjoy and be thankful for the ride of life. Take in the scenery, the people you meet and the situations you encounter including the challenging ones. Learn from and appreciate the harder moments in life, move on and BE

  • Anne Miller Murdoch

    It never hurts to be reminded! Life is too short and you really know that when you hit your 60’s-it’s almost over! What a blinding glimpse of the obvious!

  • http://WWW.actioncoach.com/lauriemcnaughton Laurie McNaughton

    Don’t worry about what others are thinking about you! In most cases they are really only thinking about themselves and what others are thinking about them. If they are thinking about you, their opinion good or bad is none of your business. The only person to define you is, well, you! Thanks for this, it is awesome.

  • Lorenacha K’uychiy

    One of my favorites is “What other people think about you is none of your business.” For some reason that has really liberated me.

  • Angel M Welsh

    Try not to bad mouth, complain about others or expect them to be who you want them to be. Instead be the change you want to see in this world …. if you give out good virtue it will come back to you.

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  • Sean Alsante

    I would also add…

    All of us are joined in this Human experience. We share this portion of a timestream of Human History. No matter 1 Month old or 100 Years old. We ALL share in OUR time together. We MUST get along and be fair and just in our moral choices, Personal Religious beliefs aside! So we should endeavour to be patient and respectful of one another always. And understand that they too walk this Moment with You, like it or not. That person shares this Moment with You, and in 1000 Years will be just as much dust as all of us here now.
    ~SHA

  • Meghan DeSantos

    This was just an amazing read. Felt lighter just reading it. Sometimes even obvious things needs to be pointed out. thank you!

  • Melody Fisher

    Listen. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

  • Jacki Livingston

    I would add, “It is okay to say no”. So many people run around trying to please everyone, and are afraid that if they say no, then others won’t like them, anymore.

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  • Lori Pingel

    To add to number 9, what you do for a job is not who you are.

  • Andrew Moss

    This needs to be taught in every school in every country. If people really understood this stuff, and didn’t just ‘know’ it intellectually, there would be far less suffering both intra and interpersonally. x

  • Cheryl Grindle

    This article so put a smile on my sad face tonight…

  • http://www.soundcloud.com/younity Younity

    This really is THE list I agree with. Great job.

  • Kayla Christos

    I posted this on my tumblr, thank you for the inspiration.
    http://kaylaboleyn.tumblr.com/post/78083752695/i-dont-even-know

    So I read a blog post today that really inspired me. (I’ll post the link at the end, everyone should read it) So here goes one of my epiphany posts.

    There has recently been a rough patch in my life. The thing is, I began to question why it is that my life constantly seems to be filled with rough patches such as these. Some people say it’s “growing pains” others say it’s girl drama, I say it’s me not being able to see my worth or stand up for myself. This realization came to me after reading that post, and also thanks to my mother. When I explained the entire story to her, she said “It makes me so so so sad that you let yourself be put down like that time after time. When you feel something in your gut, when you have that instinct, you stand up for it, don’t let other people tell you that what you feel is wrong.” Unfortunately, that is easier said than done. Regardless, I decided to take a look at my own history. It turned out that in every situation where I was trying to make something better, I ended up being the one crying, apologizing and regretting ever saying something at all. That’s not fair.

    It becomes a lot after a while, the constant weight that builds up on your shoulders from scars that are left open because of words that are left unsaid.

    This brings me to said blog post. “6. You Don’t Have To Wait For An Apology To Forgive”. It made me realize that by holding grudges, whether willingly or not, you’re only making yourself feel worse, while the other person is most likely living their life as if nothing has happened.

    No one truly knows who you are, what you have been through, your secrets, except you. If you don’t love yourself, trust yourself and believe in yourself, then who will? Yes some friends will last forever, some relationships are very meaningful, but no one can be as dependable and constant in your life as you. No one understands your scars and what triggers your pains like you do, and no one ever will.

    Another inspiration that came to me today, was from an old friend that I had. I have a tendency to want to be in control of everything around me, and I go crazy if I don’t. He saw me losing my mind trying to hold pieces together that weren’t meant to be mended and he said: “No matter how much you cling on to something, to someone, you can cling on with every piece of you if you want, but that will never change what they do in the end.” Once you realize this, if you’re anything like me, it will change your life. Stop stressing out over what’s happening behind your back or around you, just live. If you know that you love you, then you can allow yourself to open up, and to trust others. Start by loving you and the rest will come with it. Realize that it is possible for people to love you, despite all your little flaws and the things you hate about yourself (as mentioned in the blogpost I told you about). Once you allow yourself to believe this, your life will be a hell of a lot easier.

    In the end I realized, after looking back, that I’m not sorry. I know that I am not a bad person and that I always have good intentions. From now on I will stand up for what I believe is important and not let anyone’s opinion or judgement take that away from me. Life is too damn short to worry about every single tiny thing going on around you.

    Be Happy.

    • Penny Hartman

      Your message could not have come at a better time. Dealing with health issues, the anniversary of my sons loss, betrayal from people I thought I could trust is so overwhelming right now. The fight to continue life right now is a struggle. I feel that existing is just a word not an option. Your message gives me a feeling of hope and inspiration. THANKYOU !!!!!!

      • labog

        Sometimes life is not what we would like it to be. But don’t loose heart. Time has the power to heal everything. Just be compassionate towards all.

  • Leah Marie

    Great points except #7. Not forcing a connection is one thing. Feeling “less than amazing” as some kind of standard in who makes the cut in our lives is another. Set some boundaries, take a step back, but stay humble and kind.

  • afua addo

    I always tell my students, “you never ever know what anyone is thinking.”

  • Guest

    hi (y) <3

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  • cherry

    This is so inspiring! Thank you for reminding us!!

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  • Anthony McGowan

    Every thought here is either banally obvious or wrong. So, yes, of course everyone likes it. Platitudes are easy; truths are always more difficult than this: difficult to articulate, difficult to bear.

  • Sil

    where you’re from is not who you are

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  • Sandy Fazekas

    I think that this was a beautiful piece of literature. So many great points to ponder. If only the human race would slow down and realize that what matters in life is truly within ourselves . Being kind and showing more compassion for each other just makes sense. I only wish more would try it. Thank you! I enjoyed reading this this morning!!

  • Nino Müller

    Thanks for that list, it’s a real good reminder! Especially in a rushy chapter of your life, when you think something’s not going the way you want it to be, but can’t say what either. Maybe it’s because you forgot to live your own life…

  • http://www.dachia.com Dachia

    My favorite one- 2). You live the life you create for yourself. If you don’t like what you have created so far, change it. And the longer you keep going with it, the longer it will go.

  • Walter

    Achievement is not always good. Think carefully about what you’re striving for, otherwise you may damage your life and the lives of those around you.

  • Abdul Qudus

    Now I have to believe Rudyard Kipling, while growing up no body told me these “10 truths”, life & death were hardly discussed. There was emphasize on some other values, some of which may be stretched into this framework. When I got to this side of Atlantic, I had to adjust my way of thinking, and came to a conclusion; “truth” is an abstract & relative concept. I question, who sets our moral compass ? More important is the fact, why people lack moral/ethical compass, or why they do not SEE it, let alone set their bearings right ? I think I know the answers.

  • Josh

    So what if your wife says that she loves you and another man and you tell her that she has to choose only one of you. Who should she cut out then? What if you are both trying hard to work out the issues in the marriage that led her to love this other man, but it exposed some compatibility issues? Then who should she cut out? What if she says that the other man is “just a friend” but she has told him, and her husband that she loves the other man and wants him and wants to be with him? And what if she says she can’t live without him in her life in some way and that not having him in her life makes her not true to herself, and that when they reconnected she felt joy and she felt complete. But she still loves her husband and isn’t willing or ready for a divorce because she is confused and scared. Then who should she cut out? to say that I disagree with point #7 would be an understatement. Relationships take work, and they are not always obvious and simple and just feel right. 15 years of marriage requires way more effort than a year or two of dating.

  • Linda Sondik

    Wear sun block. it will come back to haunt you if you don’t.
    Ladies, Never forget how important girlfriends are. As you get older, you will realize how much you need them and depend on them.

  • Cindy Rodgers

    This is brilliant.

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  • Paul Sanderson

    Live, Love, Be Happy, Make every day count! We all have a expiration date

  • Mike

    If you trim yourself to suit other people you’ll soon find yourself whittled away.

  • http://www.lighthouse42.net Angelina Frost

    No matter how crappy the news is on any given day, there is WAY MORE LOVE happening every single moment – of every single day – every where. Remember that.

  • Nichina

    The second and third paragraphs of part #9 is basically a reworded Terence McKenna quote (whoever wrote this article should be careful to at least acknowledge their sources in future!)…. “We have to create culture, don’t watch TV, don’t read magazines, don’t even listen to NPR. Create your own roadshow. The nexus of space and time where you are now is the most immediate sector of your universe, and if you’re worrying about Michael Jackson or Bill Clinton or somebody else, then you are disempowered, you’re giving it all away to icons, icons which are maintained by an electronic media so that you want to dress like X or have lips like Y. This is shit-brained, this kind of thinking. That is all cultural diversion, and what is real is you and your friends and your associations, your highs, your orgasms, your hopes, your plans, your fears. And we are told ‘no’, we’re unimportant, we’re peripheral. ‘Get a degree, get a job, get a this, get a that.’ And then you’re a player, you don’t want to even play in that game. You want to reclaim your mind and get it out of the hands of the cultural engineers who want to turn you into a half-baked moron consuming all this trash that’s being manufactured out of the bones of a dying world.” Terence McKenna

  • Tara Hart

    Tell those you hold dear I LOVE YOU. Often.

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  • NOJ

    However good or bad a situation is now, it will change. That’s the one thing you can count on. So when life is good, enjoy it… making the this topic more open then it’s trying to beeeeeee open. just my opinion so fuck off! :)

  • NOJ

    i do agree with Russell though.

  • Joanna Marsh

    Brilliant! I totally agree with absolutely everything written in this post. So good, it has to be shared. Well done to you who wrote it! Thank you.

  • Nate

    #11: Doing it you own way is hard (and can be very lonely). There are a billion ways to be in this life but the truth of it is most people stick to the familiar. The only true way to make your life worthwhile is to do like noone else ever has (whether that be big or small). The catch is when you fail there’s no one who’s been there to show you the way. You can inspire people to come with you and to love you and help pick you up when you fall but to lead is to have no one to follow. It will be hard but it will be worth it. Remember that.

  • disqus_eUGuJ9iu6t

    I honestly don’t think it is fair that you are copying other people’s original content from their sites. From what it looks like you are getting a lot of traffic for this, even more than the original authors themselves. Marc and angel work very hard on the content for their website and it takes them hours for each blog post and yet all you do is copy and paste the entire article and give them a small snippet of credit for it.

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  • Jeffery Dorman

    heres one to add……….nobody and nothing makes you angry.

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  • retu

    My addition to this blog:
    There is no substitute for hard work. If you want to achieve anything in life you must be dedicated to learn and work hard. Some people work hard in school and achieve success. Some people work hard as entrepreneurs and achieve success. But you are lying to yourself if you think you canachieve anything with out earning it with your hard work and efforts.

  • Sarah

    What if the person your described in #7 is your sister?

  • Sarah

    What if the person described in #7 is your sister?

  • Vicki Lynn

    “Always do the right thing, regardless of what others do”. Great thoughts.

  • Raynar Rogers

    I would add…
    Believing in something is good:

    It’s so easy to be swept away by the negativity and criticism that the internet encourages. Sometimes, when I read an article, I am trying to look for something to scrutinize and I hate that this culture has made me so sceptical, but, to me, a painful truth is that even if you don’t agree with something, it can still come from somewhere genuine and the very root of all of this is belief. I believe that this author believes in his ten tips and I believe that it will help some people, me being one of them.
    Also, don’t be deflated when those who have not worked this out comment something whimsical on your passionate work, facebook status or conversation that is based on a real true belief of yours. As long as you are not disillusioned and offensive, you always have the upper hand because YOU HAVE A BELIEF. It is something that, without realising it, will create more meaning in your life and purpose than any other single word. And it doesn’t just stop there. It will spread like wildfire through your social circles and those that you come into contact with and reek of positivity and inspiration, especially to those people who you believe in!

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  • Evil

    The only thing you leave behind of value is your word.

  • Cuss

    I have been on *my* journey for many, many years, and there is nothing on this list I haven’t heard/read before, and nothing on this list that isn’t true. This list is something that someone needs, and will find, that is why it is here. Those who get nothing from it aren’t ready for it and the truths it holds. Thank you for sharing this, Namaste.

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  • Roxy Daci

    Loved this! I want to post this on my blog and I will post the source. May I use this for my blog?

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  • Jnkyrdawg Nmbrone

    Someone gave a lot of though in putting this together…None of it is bull to misguide or manipulate ones thoughts, everyone should read this and be aware of the basic instructions in life…I am inspired. do yourself a favor and take the time to read this…..It won’t kill you.

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  • Pat Schmidtke

    Life is too LONG to be unhappy all the time.

  • http://www.mamainchile.com/ Tamsin M

    Fantastic. Thank you so much for this. x

  • Donna Pacelli

    Honor the past, live for today and have faith in tomorrow.

  • Jean-Philippe

    I would add : Peace is more important than joy and happiness. Because happiness and joy are only a face of a two side coin where the other side is fear and sorrow. Let the coin down, stop the duality of going back and forth from one another. Deepen your inner peace and you will stand like a mountain even in great joy or in fearsome situations.

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  • Michele Saari

    Beautiful thoughts and awesome reminders. I do my best to “live every day as if it were my last” but found a few good pointers in your piece. Nice one. Thank you. <3

  • Rob Cunningham

    What if I see watching TV and reading magazines/newspapers as a meaningful activity?

    It strikes me as odd that you tell us that our lives are OURS to live, then turn around and tell us what not to do. Make up your mind.

  • jami

    Awesome! Great points from top to bottom. Love the stuff portion. So true.

    thanks,

    – Jami Almeida

  • Dawn Wilks

    I read this piece and found myself nodding and agreeing to virtually every point, mostly because I already realise and it and have already started living my life by such principles. And I am so much happier and healthier for it, physically and mentally. I wish every teenager could read this and learn from it. It would be one of the best lessons they could ever be taught at school!

    Thank you :-) xxx

  • Speak out

    With having absolutely no religion, I do in fact believe in every single word in this article.
    My father sent this to me. I am going through a particularly difficult time in life that is affecting nearly each aspect in my life. I have asked myself over and over “why me?”
    Now I’m asking myself, “why am I dwelling on the past, why am I not turning my negatives into positives (I have that control), why have I let others influence who I am? Most of all, WHY am I not living MY life???? Am I too worried about what Kim Kardashian is doing? Maybe (kidding)
    It’s always great to stop and read something like this during a hard time or perhaps what you think is a hard time.
    To the author, thank you.

  • Alma Gayle

    What is ‘busyness’?

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  • Guest

    How about “don’t steal.” You know – like you’ve stolen (copied and pasted) Marc and Angel Hack Life’s content for the page views. Adding a link doesn’t cover your ethical obligations.

  • MediaWeasel

    Sorry guys but if you’re posting this with Marc and Angel’s permission you need to say so, otherwise it just looks as though you’ve lifted it with the barest nod of a link to excuse the lift. That’s not really fair to Marc and Angel who are also asking for comments and additions, and no doubt would like to be given the opportunity to gain more support for the hard work they do. In effect, you’re taking viewers away from them so as to benefit your own site, and that’s not kind or generous. Would you rethink? Perhaps write your own post, in your own words, on the broader subject of simple human truths, and reference their article so that they get the visitors they work hard for. Thanks. Much love.

  • free person

    #7 contradicts many of the others. #4 (failures before success) can apply to relationships – it’s not necessary to busily go through friends (#3) looking for the right match when the right solution might be to love one’s self (#8) and quit being anxious about what friends think or how one feels about various friends. One might be most anxious about friends who challenge them to grow. Everything changes, (#10) including the way we feel about others.

  • Norm Galer

    i believe it was emerson who is credited with saying “life is a journey, not a destination”, which i normally find relevant to my own life. and from the world of darwin, a paraphrased statement: those who can’t evolve will go extinct.

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  • Rit Gwan

    as obvious as the list we quickly forget their importance…thank you for such an inspiring piece. I’ve been tweeting extracts from it since I started reading. thank you

  • Robert Fyfe

    Thanks :)

  • Emma Lacey

    Absolutely love this. I would add don’t be too scared to start a conversation with a stranger, the first to dance at a concert
    or to make contact with a long lost friend x

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  • Ini Edwards

    When i browse the net hoping for something good, I’m looking for stuff like this. Thanks

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  • http://www.brightring.com/ MaryAnn F. Kohl

    You are not the center of the universe — how you treat others is.

  • shadowdancer

    You are what you think; You create your own reality; the energy you “spend” buys your goals, hopes, dreams, wants…..think about it. How much do you have in your account of life? What are you going to spend it on? Is it borrowed or hard earned? Are you wasting it? Is there a return on it? Like love? Is there a return on your energy? Does it come back multiplied? Is there synergy? If not then redirect your thoughts and see what it brings~

  • arunav

    This is something I think very often. Ultimately everything ends with your life,so why to worry about future when its the time machine which operates you.Just be positive and thank the almighty for what you have and just take a trip of this experience of life.
    Loved the article and even pumped up that this is reality.

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  • Amy Nico Schwartz

    11. Take care of and appreciate your health. It is your tool and you only get one until we really figure out bionics. 12. Always look at the world with empathy. You don’t know what others are going through or what has twisted them up. 13. Gratitude. Do you have someone who loves you (family or friends or coworkers)? Do you have a warm place to sleep at night? Did you have food in your belly today? If you got yes on any of these you got a lot more than you might think during tougher times. 14. No one cares. No one really cares what you do or look like unless you are a jerk. So worry about it as little as you can.

    I’m sure there are tons more but those always helped me. The health one especially. I have such gratitude for my health now knock on wood. Sometimes, you dont realize how special it is til your are very ill. The empathy thing will heal others and yourself. I have been chewed out by people and told them “I hope you feel better” sincerely and they completely changed in a moment because they were having a tough time. Its rarely about what they are ranting on.

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  • Ryan Kaufman

    I don’t get the reaction of this. They’re all obvious truths. Why is this such a shock to people? “It resonates with me” well, why? It’s stuff everyone hears every day from every list exactly like this one. The only positive to this list is that I didn’t have to click a “Next” arrow 10 times.

    And also, life isn’t short, we just are greedy and expect more out of everything. If life were short, most people would die filled with regret. That just isn’t true though. A large percentage of people die with the expression “I’m ready for it. I’ve lived my life.” Death is sad, but that does not make life short. Life is longer than it used to be, and getting longer every day. It could always be considerably shorter than it is.

    Just my two cents to take or leave as you will.

    • Drew M.

      I can’t remember the source, but one of my favorite quotes goes something like, “I don’t know why people say life is short when it’s the longest thing they’ll ever experience.”

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  • http://createhope.weebly.com/ Julie Godinez-Resch

    I hear so many times when people say the words, “you complete me”, “he/she completes me”…..You don’t have to have someone in your life (marriage, partner, etc) to “complete yourself”. You must “BE” complete BEFORE you have someone join you in a long term relationship. If you are NOT complete, then you are not ready. So, please…Complete yourself, find out who you are, do the things YOU need to do to be happy with who YOU are because NO ONE should have to have another person in their life in order to be whole…otherwise you will never be complete, you will only continue to be half of yourself always depending on the other half (your partner).

  • lachef

    tERRIBle–wish that we could cut and paste! For some reason you cannot here! I like to cut and paste the parts that resonate with me in a word document; and this page won’t allow me. Major bummer and dissipates any good here…. :(

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  • Jesse Mann

    I would like to add something I believe is important, in my opinion:
    Be OPEN. What we all believe or come to know in this life, ideologically, intellectually and spiritually, can change and develop from one moment to the next. If one lives their lives in a comfortable box of dogma and ego, closing the windows and doors of their mind and heart to any outside influences–thoughts, questions, existential quandaries, changes in perspectives, opposing beliefs, etc.–you will experience life only from a pinhole view. There are so many conflicts, wars, injustice and human atrocities that occur in this world stemming simply from conflicting opinions. If we are OPEN then we are also accepting. If we are OPEN someone else’s view of life does not have to be crushed in order for our own peace or development. In being OPEN we are able to see with empathy others perspectives on life, instead of seeing only their dogma versus our own. In being OPEN we are not blindly accepting everything around us. In being OPEN we begin to see more clearly, understand with greater empathy and open doors instead of closing them.

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  • Craig Hughes

    Awesome read :) I have another to add to it..

    We are all connected – meaning when we do something hurtful or detrimental to someone else, whether we know them or not, we essentially hurt ourselves. Be kind and do what you can to help others. There is nothing more fulfilling to your soul than helping someone in need :)

  • Sharon Rue

    Practice gratitude until it becomes a habit. If you can’t think of anything to be grateful for, you’re not thinking hard enough!

  • http://www.stuarttabor.com Stuart Tabor

    Brilliant! I’m going to print this off and put it on my bedroom wall so I see it every day. Thank you.

  • Miss Annabelle

    I’d also include that “just because something is works for another person doesn’t necessarily mean it is right for you”

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  • Sheila Hanly

    Some very very true words there I could relate to all ten

  • Drew M.

    11. Trite platitudes won’t give your life meaning.

  • Beat Mueller

    Very apt for today and always. Many things affirm what I believe. Many thanks.

  • Suzanne Mahoney

    No matter how tragic or catastrophic or disastrous some event seems at the time it occurs, the passage of time will reveal that it was actually for the best. Things always work out for the best.

    • Beth Johnson

      What does that mean? Seriously, I would appreciate your comment. I hear people say things like this — e.g. “Everything happens for a reason” — and the logic totally escapes me. Yesterday we attended the funeral of a wonderful 48 year old relative who died in agony after a long illness, leaving four small children. His wife, his parents, his friends are devastated. Yes, yes; I’m sure we all learned lessons from his life and the world is a richer place for him having lived blah blah, but “it’s actually for the best” that he got melanoma, lost a leg, and died? I’d value your response.

    • Suzanne Mahoney

      The concept here is that things work out the way they are meant to. We are pretty audacious to think that we have the ability to thwart the will of God, or the universal intelligence, if you will. For instance, when I got fired from my job I thought it was the worst thing in the world that could happen to me. Four monthhs later, in a really great job that I really enjoyed, I saw that losing that other drudge job was the best thing in the world that could have happened to me. And i bet if you look at your life you can find a similar example that is meaningful to you.

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  • Zofia Sierra

    I was instantly disappointed when this turned into a religious argument.

  • Miklos Emody

    Great reading, I really enjoyed it! I have a question regarding point 7, though.

    I also believe that we shouldn’t spend time with negative people. There are just too many awesome folks out there and our time on Earth is limited…

    But what if some of the negative people are close family members? Should we avoid them? After all, we are family, but I always wondered to what extent does it mean that we have to bear a negative force in our life.

    What I’m also trying to say: keeping point 7 (and the others) might not be as simple as it sounds like…

  • Niko

    Like these! Except number 5 which is dead wrong. Knowledge is always good without it being used to “do”. Knowledge is a gift and enriching to the self as it is without it needing to be used for anything.

  • Ethan Erickson

    always say “please” when you order coffee.

  • Ethan Erickson

    use your turn signals every time.

  • Ethan Erickson

    quit wearing your hair in that charlie’s angels, flipped back way. you look like a “real housewife”.

  • Ethan Erickson

    after being rung up at the store, say “i appreciate it”.

  • Ethan Erickson

    don’t hock and spit in public, or worse: hock and chew.

  • Ethan Erickson

    when people remark on the beautiful weather, you don’t have to make a face and squeal, “but we need rain!”

  • Ethan Erickson

    don’t make people feel bad for being sick. if they thought they could stay home, they would.

  • Ethan Erickson

    you don’t need to say “namaste”.

  • Ethan Erickson

    if your shoes are brown, you can’t wear a black belt.

  • Ethan Erickson

    if you like kim kardashian, that’s just fine. fantasize as much as you like (life is short).

  • Faith West

    Understand that you can love someone but not like them at times.

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  • Kam

    one of my favourite sayings to keep things in perspective is “nothing is still something”..how you interpret it is up to you but its a great thing for me to say when a failing feeling starts to take over. helps to sweep up the fuck ups and move forward

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    Thank you for the reminder. My occasional shortsightedness and busy life can sometimes get the best of me.

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  • Connie Terpack

    Maybe it’s not what was said but how. Often, when someone can’t understand the directions, you change your words or phrasing so they make sense to the other person. While these are all true, something about keeping your faith strong or trusting in God should be included. I noticed a few commenters said they didn’t believe in God, but that does not change the fact that He exists. My life is not perfect, but it is a huge help having God around to consult and depend on.

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  • Monica

    Greet everyone you meet with a “Hello” or “Good Morning’… It may change their whole entire day”!! :-)

  • Ed O’Meara

    8 is wrong I think. You din’t have to LOVE yourself, you just don’t have to dislike yourself. Live outwardly.

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  • Sandra M

    I enjoyed this list, but I feel like the first point has been made so many times that when you finally realise it, finally accept it, it makes life seem so pointless.

    For the past six months my head has been filled with a deep knowing that our lives are over in an instant. What’s an 80 year life span in the course of all history? It seems like everywhere I go I’m haunted by thoughts of all the people who’ve come before, all those who’ll come after, and ultimately the insignificance of my life in the history of the world. If you’re not famous, rich or powerful then how important is your story? In fifty years after my death I’ll be forgotten, maybe sooner.

    These seem like morbid thoughts but I guess this is why people have kids – so their lives fit into an ongoing narrative; to give them a sense of meaning. At 35 I feel like my time, my era, is coming to a close. In fifteen years I’ll be 50, and then what? My life is almost over, before I’ve achieved anything.

    Maybe it’s good to be aware of how short life is, but not TOO aware. I’m trying to remind myself how long life is, and how full of possibilities (even after the wrinkles set in).

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  • Marcia Moore

    I don’t think we’ve FORGOTTEN these truths. I think they are just too painful to ponder.

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    Don’t “should” all over yourself.

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  • Chris Sessions

    Adding my two bits to the list: We are wrong a lot more than we want to think. Not about easy things, but about hard things, complex things, things that are above the mundane. Growing up means coming to terms with how wrong we can be. The greatest gift adults can give themselves is the freedom to be humble before the cosmos.

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  • lukedevine

    I’m confused 6. says learn to forgive and 7. says let go of those people who are holding you back. So do you forgive them or let them go?

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  • Kilburn

    You have blatantly plagiarised Terence McKenna

    “We have to create culture, don’t watch TV, don’t
    read magazines, don’t even listen to NPR. Create your own roadshow. The
    nexus of space and time where you are now is the most immediate sector
    of your universe, and if you’re worrying about Michael Jackson or Bill
    Clinton or somebody else, then you are disempowered, you’re giving it
    all away to icons, icons which are maintained by an electronic media so
    that you want to dress like X or have lips like Y. This is shit-brained,
    this kind of thinking. That is all cultural diversion, and what is real
    is you and your friends and your associations, your highs, your
    orgasms, your hopes, your plans, your fears. And we are told ‘no’, we’re
    unimportant, we’re peripheral. ‘Get a degree, get a job, get a this,
    get a that.’ And then you’re a player, you don’t want to even play in
    that game. You want to reclaim your mind and get it out of the hands of
    the cultural engineers who want to turn you into a half-baked moron
    consuming all this trash that’s being manufactured out of the bones of a
    dying world.” ―
    Terence McKenna

  • Steve

    Why is death inevitable? We can use biotechnology to cure aging.

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  • Leigh Ann

    Down to earth writing as I like it. You forgot about being kind. It’s probably linked with forgiveness. For the hundreds of angry or not paying attention drivers, the people who barge you in the street, the people who have no respect for others. Doing a kind deed can make that fade away. Random acts of kindness mean so much to my life, my sanity. I help others with doors, trollies, bags, elderly folk reading labels, giving way to people, just little things. If everyone thought about the power of kindess the world would be a much more beautiful place to live in.

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    No one will fight your corner. You need to stick up for yourself.

  • Christtine Hogg Renner

    It is more than five.1.)Save for your retirement. Nothing wrong with living in the present but you may be fortunate enough to grow old and you are going to want to be comfortable. 2)Don’t make life-changing decisions in the spur of the moment. Think through what you are doing. 3)Education is important. It doesn’t have to be formal, in school but be a lifelong learner. It will keep your mind sharp and you will have interesting things to talk about. 4) Your body truly is your temple. You can have fun and party but don’tr abuse yourself. Again, you may be lucky enough to grow old and you only have one body. Take care of it. 5) Stop complaining. You will feel better.Keep a positive attitude and be grateful for whatever you do have. Your life will fly by so fast so appreciate every day. 6)Treat people (and animals) kindly and respectively. It doesn’t cost you anything to be nice but it might change someone else’s day and you will feel
    better about yourself 7)Find a passion. If it is not your work then find a hobby. Keep busy. and 8)Please don’t litter. We only have this one world. Take care of it. Littering is needless. Find a trash can.
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  • dudley

    This was great! The only thing I would add, which I have always found to be true in my own experiences, is a quote by the great Maya Angelou — “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”.

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  • Liam Kelly

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  • Guest

    Don’t forget what it’s like to be and think like a child. Some of the most difficult situations suddenly “fix” themselves when we look at it through the eyes of our child-like self. Adults seem to want to complicate and argue over EVERYTHING.

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  • whodiditman666

    One person said they are not true, I forgive that person. As for forgiveness if you still have to deal with that person and they consider themselves perfect in all action while they will not say they are perfect they find nothing where they were or are ever at fault, forgiveness is just then a repeating loop with no real benefit just more anger. I think that is why many fathers give up seeing their children. They are in a never will be treated fairly situation.

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  • Gary

    i liked this so much I needed to mull them over by rewriting. My summation: Life can be too short, don’t die w/good stuff inside you that didn’t get shared; Don’t be scared to switch paths; Don’t buy into illusions of busyness; Forgive yourself of mistakes; You are what you do, not just what you think about; Forgive/accept/apologize; Don’t settle on an inner circle, find better; Know your worth; Don’t define yourself w/outside culture, create your own & don’t look to impress others; Accept that happiness only comes with appreciating what you have now.

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  • EliasGeist

    9. Is basically directly quoted from a Terence Mckenna speech. Just thought id point it out. Great article though.

  • Andrea Carmody

    I might add something about Facebook since it’s such a big part of our culture now, and so many people waste so much time on it (myself included). The suggestion could be to use it only for your close friends, and if you don’t want to unfriend someone then choose to not have their posts on your newsfeed because some people seem to only use Facebook as a way to vent frustrations and seeing all the negativity really brings you down. Add pages like “humans of New York” and “Science alert” to make your newsfeed interesting and uplifting :D and share stuff like this article!

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    All my life I’ve suffered from being around the wrong people. Once or twice a real jewel came my way that just loved me for who I was, but so rare. It is only in retrospect that I see who the jewels were and that’s a pity.