We’ve been completely backwards around sex.
We got sex all wrong. Big time. We’ve collectively made a mess of the most powerful and sacred energy known to mankind; our sexual energy. We collectively view sex as this shameful, guilt ridden thing that we need to control. We tell ourselves that our sexual desires are to be largely repressed. We subconsciously view sex as a dirty thing. This couldn’t be any further from the truth. Sex is one of the most beautiful and powerful forces on the face of this Earth. Sex brings us to the creative force of the Universe. Sex is creation. Sex is an act of enlightenment. Sex is sacred. We don’t need to feel guilty. We don’t need to feel shame. We don’t need to hide or repress our sexual desires. We should in fact embrace them. They are a natural and beautiful part of life.
Sex and Spirituality: How they’re linked.
The age old teaching of Tantra teaches us that sex is sacred and we should enjoy every desire and sensation we crave, so long as we don’t harm ourselves or anyone in the process. This approach to sex brings us inner peace and joy as we embrace a powerful and repressed part of our collective identity. We’ve been largely trained by our schools, religious organization, parents and peers that we should shut our sexual persona away. We should treat it as an extremely hush hush part of our personalities that are better kept swept under the rug. Most sexual acts are considered taboo and not be spoken of only under special circumstances. I’m not quite sure what large number of factors led to this misconception around sex, but this treatment of one of the most powerful and beautiful acts two or more human beings can partake in, has been harming our health as sexual beings. The phrase sex sells is powerful and true for a reason. Sexual energy is extremely potent and is a driving factor for a large amount of human actions.
Is there any guilt? Is there shame? Is sex a dirty thing to you? Is sex an uplifting act?
In order to start your healing journey with your sexual life, it’s good to start with an inquiry on the current state of your sexual life. Anything related to our sexuality can be highly sensitive and emotionally charged, so please practice lots of self compassion during your inquiries. You can start by analyzing the state of your past and current sex lives. You can explore what emotions you associate with sex. Is there any guilt? Is there shame? Is sex a dirty thing to you? Is sex an uplifting act? Are you happy with your sexual life? Release any guilt or any shame that may come up for you and as I said before, be compassionate. You are unpacking years and years of conditioning. It most likely won’t be an easy thing to deal with.
How to Unravel Your Sexual Desires
Next, you’ll want to express your true sexual desires. You can start with masturbation and fantasizing. Let your body take the lead and hold space for yourself to be free. The sex life you have with yourself is representative of the sex life you’ll have with another. Take some time to restructure what you’ve learnt around sex with yourself. Allow yourself to express yourself sexually without guilt or shame. Embrace your sexuality. It is beautiful. Continue your experimentation. You can experiment safely with yourself or with partners to unpack all the layers and find out what you really desire. Sexual desire is a complicated thing with many psychological layers.
Taking the time and effort to explore our sexual desires to make sure they provide us with inner peace and joy may prove to be a worthy exercise.
The Energetic Power of Sex
It’s not too late and it’s absolutely worth it to get control over our sexual lives. Our sexual expression is absolutely instrumental to our connection to the divine, our expression of our creativity and personal power and our overall vitality and lust for life. Sexually satisfied human beings glow. They’re connected. Find whatever works for you and be happy, fulfilled and express your sexuality. Our sexual energy moves all the way up our body providing us with an energetic cleanse that reduces stress and anxiety and increases creativity and vitality. However we choose to express our sexuality, it is a good way to feel connected to ourselves and to express love. To be physically, spiritually, emotionally and energetically connected to another human being can be a spiritual dance around the cosmos we can take without ever leaving our bodies.
We can meet the creative force of the Universe. We can feel our connection to life. We can meet ourselves at our most vulnerable and authentic self. It doesn’t matter where you are on your journey to express your sexuality. Embrace it all as you discover yourself. Safe self exploration, conscious casual sex, freedom from guilty and shame and compassion for the self are great tools one can use on their quest for sexual freedom.
